Realities of marriage and family like this?

[trktiedb]

I’m a single mum, 36 to a 2 year old. I work part time but my ex never has dc. He pays some maintenance and that’s it.

I feel a bit hopeless. I’m not asking for happy endings just the reality I guess so I can accept the reality.

i know I could meet someone but is anyone decent going to be interested? I’m very low today.

Really sorry to hear this. My mum was a single mum and I was always really happy. I know it's hard, but just saying it's not all bad. Xx

i know I could meet someone but is anyone decent going to be interested? I’m very low today.

Why on earth do you think no one 'decent' would be interested in you?

@Crumpleton well before dc I was in a high flying job, lots of disposable income, less tired and younger.

so I’m guessing that will equate to less interest…

@trktiedb I got married this year after my relationship with ExH ended 5 years ago when DC was 2. I did need family to help with baby sitting so I could date and did get a lot of interest from guys clearly out for someone to do their childcare for them, but it was worth it!

Oh and I’m 37 :)

I met DP as a single parent. You're probably at the hardest stage now - your DC is so young. IME it gets better as they get older and more independent. You'll start to feel more yourself again, at the moment you're fully in 'mum' mode.

Do you have any support around apart from your ex?

@TeaMoreToast my ex isn’t supportive at all. I could sort childcare. I feel like the ship has sailed though at 36 with a 2 year old in terms of finding anyone new to have a family with

36 is still young! I have friends who met their DP and had their first child in their late 30s.

If you can sort childcare, do you want to give dating a go? Online dating can seem difficult but if you want to meet someone, that's an option.

There are also groups that organise holidays and get together for single parents - you could book and expand your circle of friends and you never know, you might meet a decent single dad!