Some advice please

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DH has just discovered he has an adult child he did not know about.

They want to meet. I know from some friends and acquaintances that these things can go wrong in the long term and I'm looking for resources on the best way to manage it.

I had a Google but couldn't find anything appropriate.

Any assistance would be much appreciated.

If they haven't already, they need to take a DNA test.

It's a 50% match on Ancestry and the name and dates given tie in.

I think all you can do really is support your husband (assuming it’s from before you met) and encourage him to take things slowly

DNA test and meet in a mutual place.

I met with my adopted brother several years ago. It’s taken us a long time to get to know each other. He met our mum several times but their relationship didn’t work out due to her control issues amongst other things.

I'd still take the DNA test.

Thanks.

We are already a blended family and all our children are grown up, some with their own children.

It was before his first marriage, when he was 16.

Will suggest DNA test.

I am concerned that we know a few cases of this type and we don't want to mess it up long term.