Worried about 11 month old

[holymaloney7]

I’m a bit worried about my 11 month old. Development wise he seems to be quite behind and doesn’t really do much. He started crawling a few weeks ago but he doesn’t wave, point, say any words like mama or dada, doesn’t try and pull himself up/cruise. Isn’t too interested in other babies. I recently returned to work and he isn’t too bothered about seeing me when I collect him. He doesn’t seem very affectionate e.g not too keen on cuddles, doesn't put his arms out to be picked up, just wants to be away playing. He does clap sometimes but not on demand. He does bang toys together when playing. He eats well and sleeps well. He does have good eye contact and has been quite a happy and content baby but recently I have noticed he is a bit more serious and not as smiley. Not currently teething, he already has 7 teeth. I’m just a bit worried as he seems quite a bit behind all other babies I know and reading online he isn’t doing what the milestones say he should be at this age. I have discussed it with my partner but he doesn’t think it’s anything to be too worried about. As a first time mum I probably overthink everything but just hoping for some advice on whether I should be concerned about this.

Omg… first of all my bubs is not even 11 months and here I am searching for answers to do with her eating… she has hit all her milestones very early and crawls, talks, stands and is almost walking, she has 10 teeth and is very alert… almost too alert .. she isn’t interested in food, hates hugging and kissing and hasn’t taken a bottle unless lying down since she was 5 months old… I also tell my partner is something wrong, I overthink everything! She’s so clever and can spot a speck of dust or dirt

A mile off, am I being over the top?

She sounds quite normal to me.

That makes my day to
hear that honestly

@holymaloney7 hows your little one now?

He'll be 3 in October and absolutely thriving. I feel like as a ftm I over analysed everything and worried for nothing. There are zero concerns with him and his speech is incredible and has been for a long time, he was talking in sentences by 2 and had tonnes of words before then. Potty trained at just under 2.5 incredibly easily, pretty much traines himself. So switched on, smart and hilarious. He's so well behaved, sometimes bossy and strong willed but never tantrums and is a real joy. He walked at 17 months which was a bit later than the other babies in our group of 9 (all same age bar a few weeks) but he's visibly ahead of them now and has been for a while.

Hi thank you, you’ve given me so much hope!! Mines just turned 11 months and everything uou have written it’s like a mirror, except DS babbles baba and bububbbb not mama/dada etc

do you remember roughly when things improved with him, the waving/pointing and when he started saying words etc xx

No problem I know it's hard not to worry! I think he was around 14 when he started to point, with waving I can't actually remember, but there were never any concerns from nursery or health visitor. He started saying a few basic words shortly after he turned one but by time he was 16-18 months he had loads of words (I'm sad and tried to keep a list of them at first) and then from there on he just kept coming out with more. Maybe he would have anyway but we've always read loads of books and never go a day without reading so I do think this has helped a lot with his speech!

@holymaloney7 Ahh you’ve given me so much hope on a crappy day, oh we read about 7 books a day I feel like we do book overload sometimes but it’s one thing he actually loves, that’s why I get worried when he doesn’t babble loads as we are constantly reading to him, hopefully he just comes out with word vomit soon.

It's lovely to hear that your son not only reached those milestones but has exceeded them! I could write a very similar post except my little boy is 13 months. He walks and claps, but no pointing, words, or waving. I look forward to what the next couple of months may bring and hopefully he will catch up with his peers

I'm glad it lessens the worry as I'm sure in a few months time they will be thriving also! I spent a lot of time googling and would have found it re-assuring to follow on posts where things turned out fine. I do think mine was just a bit of a potato baby, which looking back I should of enjoyed while it lasted 😅 I've just actually read my post back and some of the other things I mentioned like not being social, now he makes friends wherever he goes and is such a social chatty boy. He is still not very affectionate which is just his personality although is a bit more affectionate with his dad.

Hi @holymaloney7 im losing so much sleep over it, between 10-11 months we had a tonne of constant babbles and the occasional clapping eye contact was amazing etc then past 2 weeks its slowly fizzled but he has cut 3 teeth so I hope thats why.

yeah I love when the OP comes back with a reassuring post.