Someone I've known since university.
I'm about a stone heavier than I would like to be but my BMI is in the normal range, I'd say she is obese, yet she comments constantly on my "chubby arms and pot belly". I never say anything about her weight.
She says I need Botox, she's had it but she's had it done cheaply and the upper half of her face doesn't move. I never point this out.
She is single and always goes for much younger men, I think they are probably only after sex because they seem to "meet someone else" after a few months and end it with her. Yet, she constantly criticises my partner's behaviour because she has no understanding of his mental health conditions. I never point out my views on the men she chooses.
She has been getting abusive messages from women in her town because she slept with someone's boyfriend yet she can't see that what she did was wrong and thinks they are being unreasonable. She wants to meet a friend of my partner's but I don't want to introduce them. My partner finds her hard work because she is pushy and overbearing (she has a sales job) and he hides when he sees her because he can't cope with her. She saw this friend on a Facebook post and has set her sights on him because he is younger (a few years younger than us) and attractive (he is). He's also a bit of a player and would probably shag her for a bit but it would end in tears (DP and I agree on this).
She is pushy, she's booked and paid for a weekend away for her and I and now wants me to transfer her half the money. When she asked me if I wanted to go, I tried to decline politely by saying I didn't know whether DD would be at her Dad's that weekend and I'd let her know nearer the time. So she's just booked the weekend and said I should be tougher with DD's dad and make sure he has her that weekend. I really don't want to spend a weekend with her. She just sits around drinking beer and eating junk food, I like to be more active. The last time we went away for the weekend I managed to get her out on a 5 mile walk but it had a small hill near the end and she could barely get up it.
I don't know whether to push her to even more arms length, or end the friendship. I've never ended a friendship before, I've had friendships fizzle due to changes of circumstance. Do I ghost her, do I speak to her and tell her why I don't want to spend time with her?