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I love my mum…BUT

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LiveLaughLoaf · 02/09/2022 19:06

I love my mum. She’s a lovely mother, a wonderful fun grandma, despite getting on a bit and not being in the best of health. We all love her to bits. But… We’ve been away with her for a week and every single time we had anything at all to eat it was ‘enormous’ So, a normal sized cup of tea.”This tea’s like a swimming pool!” A normal sized scone, “This scone is like a giants portion!” A normal sized fish and chips “Oh my goodness it’s Moby Dick!” Honestly I’m a healthy weight with a normal appetite and I’ve spent the week feeling like Augustus bloody Gloop! Anyone else?

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CandyLeBonBon · 02/09/2022 20:26

Op my mum does this too. But she'll buy a sandwich and say ooh shall we just share. I'm ravenous - I have a physical job and a shared sandwich just doesn't cut it!

Mine's always been like it. But then she'll go home and snarf a bath of chocolate and a packet of hobnobs when no one is looking.

ZenNudist · 02/09/2022 20:32

My DP comment on people's weight and are holier than thou about never eating sugar and sneering at those who do. My dad disapproves of desserts. Yet they will chug down all the alcohol and I definitely drink much less. I just try and ignore it. I've just been on holiday with them and got one scoop of ice cream all week!!

Minimalme · 02/09/2022 20:35

DWMoosmum · 02/09/2022 20:16

52 year old here. I've never had much of an appetite but given an option I always have a Childs portion as other posters are right, your appetite definitely wanes as you get older, also in menopause most things make you feel sick, so smaller portions are the only way. Don't be upset with her, a lot of the time it's just general passing comments. I'm sure as my hubby was tucking into fish and chips in Padstow I mentioned it looked like he was eating a whale, I don't mean it to be rude, it's just me being silly.

If large portions and eating makes you feel sick in menopause, I'm shocked at how many menopausal women complain of being overweight.

Has it occurred to you that you have come into this thread to demonstrate exactly what the op is about?

toastedcat · 02/09/2022 20:44

My mum and mother in law are like this! Is it a generational thing? Having to be small and dainty for their husbands? That's what I always think it boils down to.

glowingtwig · 02/09/2022 20:49

'Are all those potatoes for you and Mr Glowing?'

'You're going to eat that whole pie for one?'

'Biscuits again?'

CandyLeBonBon · 02/09/2022 21:05

I'm sure as my hubby was tucking into fish and chips in Padstow I mentioned it looked like he was eating a whale, I don't mean it to be rude, it's just me being silly.

If you did that just once I'd accept you were being silly. More than once and I'd say you we're definitely being judgmental, rude and probably projecting your own issues.

Ijsbear · 02/09/2022 21:06

My honorary grandmother used to say "come on, eat up, I don't want anything left over!" and put food on my plate even when I said no, 3 times.

Then she'd get very cross if I didn't clear my plate.

Then she'd tell me my thighs and arse looked huge.

I loved her and appreciated her but it did irritate me!

TokyoTen · 02/09/2022 21:10

Tell me about it - it drove me crazy when mum came to live with us for a bit. Every meal was commented on in terms of size. I would serve her something for her - because of course she only likes "plain food" and can't possibly eat what we have, but it was always far too big. Honestly I got so fed up when even serving 1/2 scone with jam.and cream on the side so I didn't give her too much was a problem I just stopped serving. I'd serve ours and just say "your dinner is ready mum if you'd like to serve it so you can get just what you need" funny enough she then changed her tune as that meant actually doing something herself.

MaydinEssex · 02/09/2022 21:25

LiveLaughLoaf · 02/09/2022 19:06

I love my mum. She’s a lovely mother, a wonderful fun grandma, despite getting on a bit and not being in the best of health. We all love her to bits. But… We’ve been away with her for a week and every single time we had anything at all to eat it was ‘enormous’ So, a normal sized cup of tea.”This tea’s like a swimming pool!” A normal sized scone, “This scone is like a giants portion!” A normal sized fish and chips “Oh my goodness it’s Moby Dick!” Honestly I’m a healthy weight with a normal appetite and I’ve spent the week feeling like Augustus bloody Gloop! Anyone else?

I'm not overly elderly (in my 50's)but I've developed mobility issues and my appetite has really decreased, I used to be able to clear everything on my plate and then some, but since I've been less mobile I hardly eat much at all, I'm on a lot of meds which might affect my appetite, sometimes I struggle to eat anything, but I force myself to as I need to eat something to take my tablets, I think it's nature's way of stopping me turning into a huge lump lol

GoodVibesHere · 02/09/2022 21:33

DWMoosmum · 02/09/2022 20:16

52 year old here. I've never had much of an appetite but given an option I always have a Childs portion as other posters are right, your appetite definitely wanes as you get older, also in menopause most things make you feel sick, so smaller portions are the only way. Don't be upset with her, a lot of the time it's just general passing comments. I'm sure as my hubby was tucking into fish and chips in Padstow I mentioned it looked like he was eating a whale, I don't mean it to be rude, it's just me being silly.

'In menopause most things make you feel sick'.... I've read a lot about menopause but have never come across this? I suffered awful night sweats, anxiety, brain fog and aching etc, but no sickness.

But, telling someone it looks like they're eating a whale!! That's a horrible thing to say!

Mmmmdanone · 02/09/2022 22:03

My mum is like this! Makes me and my kids feel like absolute greedy pigs (and sometimes says exactly that). Makes us not want to visit.

Pallisers · 02/09/2022 23:12

also in menopause most things make you feel sick, so smaller portions are the only way.

This is very unusual and if you are feeling constant nausea while eating, you should get yourself checked out by a doctor and not presume it is because of menopause.

notgoingthisyear · 03/09/2022 07:37

My mum is the opposite, doesn't each much herself due to appetite but by god at 78 she's still a feeder!

nokitchen · 03/09/2022 07:44

My mum used to have a normal size portion then offload half of her plate onto my brother's plate. So he would have one and a half dinners at every meal. And then she would complain that he was getting fat!

ChagSameachDoreen · 03/09/2022 09:40

Rilo · 02/09/2022 19:11

My mum died a while ago. I’d give anything to share a scone and some fish & chips with her and let her make me feel fat. Give yours a hug and tell her you love her

Oh shut up!

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