Having goals after 50

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I don't know quite how to put this but I feel like there's a lot for me to achieve in life still but I also feel like what's the point at this age.
I know that sounds really ridiculous because I'd really admire someone who did. Probably because it seems that the odds are stacked against them.
Anyway, the point is that I have fitness, weight and work goals to achieve still but I find my drive is affected by my doubts.
Does anyone get what I'm trying to say? How can I overcome this?

I'm 50 and have a lovely pt job, am doing a degree with the Open University (@MissyB1 they offer funding) and also do freelance work. One is fulfilling; one is interesting; one pays well. A good balance!

I am in my 50's and have goals and they are goals for me. I've spent a lot of my life working on supporting the family (I'm the breadwinner) and getting the DC off to a good start and now I am being a bit more selfish.
I'm making myself sit down and think about what I want - how do I want my life to be in 5 years time. I'm doing a course in something creative because I've always wanted to do it. I've lost some weight - more to go - because I want to be fit and healthy enough to do the things I want to do. I have financial goals so I don't have to work until I drop.

I am "blaming" the mind shift on the menopause - suddenly I am a bit less nurturing and a bit more focussed on my interests - I feel a bit freer to put my interests at the top of my priority list. It's wonderful 😁

i find this admirable because at 47 i feel completely used up. my best years are well behind me and i wasted them. now i am taking care of elderly parents and teenage children and waiting to be thrown on a scrap heap.

No, nobody gets to throw you on a scrap heap. I wasted my first 2 adult decades too. But I have more ahead.

You will never be 25 again but what can you not do now because you're 47?
You can work, study, exercise, enjoy reading, enjoy learning, enjoy cooking, art, creation, conversation, walking, holidays.....
I'm 52 and I feel like I can do whatever I did at 22 (except have a fling with a good looking young man)! But fekk, apart from that one thing, we can do anything.

In a few years your teens will be more independent, that's what I hope!

I have q job and I have kids but I always had somewhere I needed to be. I have responsibilities now but I was never completely free.
Age hasn't made it harder or worse.

I am 58 and have started walking an hour a day 4 or 5 days a week. I put my hiking boots on and try to walk briskly. Though I was lacking in iron recently so have only just recovered and am finding it tiring but so worth it from all the lovely fresh air! I am nodding off 830pm most evenings since lol.I really want to tone up my post menopausal flabby legs. They used to look perfect and now I really miss them. It is true what they say that muscle turns to fat....

Those of you who at 52 feel as good as 22 I don't know how you do it. I just don't have the same energy. I eat healthily no smoking no drinking plenty of water and vitamins. Perhaps when I lose the 10 pounds I gained in weight this year I will feel much better.

One thing I will say is that peri-menopause has given me a "couldn't give a fuck " button , the stupid things I used to worry about ( and I mean worry to the point of anxiety ) I now just brush those things off and I put that energy into positive and constructive things . I also no longer allow people to walk all over me including family . I think sometimes that's why we feel the way we do , all of a sudden no one needs me any more and they have dropped me like a dead weight it's soul destroying it can actually feel like abandonment .

I’m late 40s and always thought I’ve achieved nothing really and was so negative about my life because I was always comparing myself to other people in better circumstances. Now I’ve flipped it on it’s head (intense therapy helped!) and look at my life through a positive lense.

While I haven’t managed to hit the career heights I thought I would, I have a job where I’m respected, work remotely so I can be there for my kids, am paid okay and can afford nice things. I don’t aspire to the shite I used to aspire to. I’m curvy, will never be skinny no matter how hard I try but y’know that’s okay. I wear what suits me.

Travel was always a big one for me. I’ve seen a lot of the world but again my favourite holiday is Orlando and Disney World and I don’t care who judges me for that and my Minnie Mouse ears so a lot of my financial aspirations are to afford to go back 😆

I understand the “what’s the point” but perhaps look at what you do like and have achieved, concentrate on that and build from there. The world is still your oyster too x

I think because I started out not valuing myself. Yeh society values young women, but I only ever felt fuckable and disposable. I value myself much more highly now and what value society places on me, well, I won't be naive enough to say that that is none of by business but it can't stop me doing the same things that younger women do.

Awesome post. It is all about confidence and re-learning who you are . I'm taking the world by the balls and shaking the crap out of it !

Disney world is fantastic 😍

@Wiccan I’ll see you there so!!

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