Should I wait for him to text me? Dating help!!

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I met a guy online 3 weeks ago, we've met twice and messaged every single day since. (Lots of texts everyday!) It's been so nice.

He's gone on holiday for a week with his parents and little girl and the night before he went my last text said 'have a lovely holiday, see you soon'. Since then he's not text (weds night) I realise it's just a day he's not messaged which would have been his travelling day and settling in etc but I'm thinking my messages reads that I'm not expecting him to text!

Will I look desperate if I text him today? Or should I wait for him to text? I never know how to go about these things 🫣

Help!!

No I wouldn’t text, give him space and chance to miss you - let him text you when he’s ready.
I also get easily pissed off when I’m on holiday and people text me as I don’t want to be on my phone when away.

Just text him. Nothing big but just say did you get there okay, or how's it going?

I wouldn't expect messages from someone I'd only been dating for a couple of weeks, especially as he's on holiday with family. I'd wait and see if he messages you when he gets back, if he doesn't then I'd leave it.

Chill.

I'd send a breezy "hope your holiday is going well - is the accommodation nice?" type text. Something low key but with a question he needs to answer, just so you know whether he is still talking to you or not.

This is probably against the advice you will mainly get on here which will be to leave it. But I am trying to be honest and say what I would do in your position.

My thought process would be, this early on in the getting-to-know-you process, while I wouldn't be expecting him to text as frequently while he is away, I would want the odd message just to know I hadn't been ghosted and wasn't wasting my time, when potentially, if he HAS ghosted, you might want to be moving on and arranging other dates etc......

No indication that he has ghosted you by the way. It's just that this early in a dating relationship it does happen quite a bit, and you don't want to waste time if this one isn't a goer.

Obviously you don't want to bombard him during his family time. But sending the odd message every couple of days is not unreasonable, even tho it is very early on in your dating relationship with this guy.....

Good luck!

Everyone has different expectations when it comes to messaging. But, and I hate to say it, are you sure he's not with his wife and child on holiday?

I'd leave it till he gets back.

Nah leave it for now. Perhaps message over the weekend at some point just to check in. He could always message you first.

I can see both reasons. I think it's just because I have a tendency to push away and act cooler than I am I don't want him to think I don't want him to text 🤷🏻‍♀️