Dilemma - Covid risk before family holiday

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WWYD?

FIL has tested positive today for Covid. We (DH, me and 2x young DC) were meant to be staying with FIL and MIL this weekend, which we now won't be.

The dilemma is whether we should still travel to DH's home town (3hrs away) this weekend and who we should see there if we do.

BIL is visiting from New Zealand. This weekend is our only chance to see him before he goes back. DH wants to see his brother. BIL has been staying with FIL but is so far testing Covid negative.

This weekend is also our niece's (SIL's daughter) birthday party, in the same town. We could travel there for that and either go home the same day or stay in a hotel. They've all been mixing this past week though.

None of us have had Covid yet. On Friday we are due to fly abroad for our first family holiday together. WWYD?

We had this. We were meant to travel to DH's cousin before our holiday but didn't end up going. However I get it about your bil. If he's neg I would still see him and maybe do it outside?

Lots of factors to consider…

How would catching it impact your holiday - are you going somewhere with any legal restrictions, or are you more worried about either feeling too unwell to travel/enjoy yourself or the moral imperative not to travel while contagious? What kind of holiday is it - busy hotel? Isolated cottage?

How close are DH and BIL? When is DH next likely to see BIL if no this weekend? How would everyone react if you decided not to go?

Meet BIL outdoors

If you won't see him for several years then I would go. The weather is nice so meet out doors. If it makes you feel better. Personally I wouldn't really care about it.

Thanks for the replies!

No legal restrictions for the country we're going to, worried about the impact catching it would have on our enjoyment and ability to go, and the ethical side of travelling whilst contagious too.

We're going to a self-catering villa.

I'd say DH and BIL are pretty close. We saw him last in April this year, and will next see him April next year.

I'm tempted to suggest DH goes there by himself for the day to see BIL outside.

That sounds sensible. Get BIL to test the day on the day. It’s very unlikely your DH will catch it and become too unwell to travel by Friday, and if he does get ill on holiday chances are it will be mild and might just need a few quiet days relaxing in the villa.

My DH caught covid just before a UK holiday earlier this year he was fine to travel (by car) and we just had a chilled few days and kept ourselves to remote walks and isolated beaches until he tested negative again.

Obviously it’s a bit more complicated travelling abroad - get good quality masks in case one of you needs to travel back contagious, and make sure you’ve got good travel insurance in the unlikely event anyone is properly unwell. But most people I know who have had covid recently have had a very mild illness.

I wouldn't risk the party as it's sure to be inside, and will be hard to distance.

Regarding your BIL, meet up outside - even a walk you can slightly distance. Do your research and find somewhere outside you can have a coffee, but still distance a little - ie all sitting back from the table. Obviously ask BIL to test and be honest if he in any way feels ill on the day.

I'd stay at home. I'm sure your niece will be understanding, hope you can speak to her on the day by phone.