Question for those of you that have been divorced

[Dhama]

Hi All,

I am getting a divorce due to husband having an affair - I am seeing a solicitor tomorrow and I am getting together a list of questions to ask.

I was wondering for those of you that have been through this process what do you wish you'd asked or what are your must ask questions from you solicitor?

Thanks in advance for your help!

Dharma x

I didn't see a solicitor and ex husband applied for divorce online so not the same at all but saw there was no answer yet so am bumping this for you. Sorry that you are going through this but just wanted you to know it does get better.🌸

Divorced years ago, I wanted everything to be fair and equal so everything was split 50-50, including finances, household possessions etc. At the time I didn't want to cause too much fuss and said I'd leave the pensions (my ex had two set up). The solicitor at the time pressed me to go for pension splitting, now I'm in my 60s I'm so glad they did, it was very wise advice.

As pp above, it's awful to go through at the time but it really does get better as time goes by. Thinking of you.......

Thanks both.

It’s a huge shock, genuinely thought we were happy. He’s such a cliché.

We have joint finances, we both work full time but he earns over 5 times what I do and a huge pension and without wanting to sound mercenary I need to make sure I don’t suffer because of him.

thanks again

Exdh had an affair, we had been married for 16 years and didn't have children (male infertility).
We didn't use solicitors and came to our own financil agreement. I had 2/3 of the equity and agreeded to revoke any claim to his pension.
We didn't want to spend a fortune on solicitors and made a huge effort to keep things amicable. I know too many people who have gone to war via solicitors and the only winners were the solicitors!!!!

So sorry you're going through this. Do you have children together? (Only asking as sorting out a contact arrangement was rather hardest part for me) 💐

We do have children, one at uni and one in the final year of A Levels so they can determine their own contact to a degree. He currently states he’ll continue to support them financially so that they won’t be impacted at all, we’ll see.

Also thanks again for your kindness, it’s very much appreciated