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Does he even love me

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GGG30 · 29/08/2022 10:49

Not sure if I’m being a bit dramatic by my boyfriend (also the father of our 8mo son) is just always so nasty with his words when angry. Then when he calms down says he ‘obviously didn’t mean it’

for example I took the remote as a joke like playing around. He flicks me in the head repeatedly and wakes the baby sleeping in my arms I say “you’ve just woke the baby”
he says “no that was you it always is” then says I’m a brat and I act like a baby

and when I’ve tried to explain how his reaction was a bit much he won’t speak to me and says I’m not ruining his birthday (tomorrow)

So I’m sat feeling a bit sad because I don’t get why he’s so dismissive of me. He never used to be like this with me it’s only been this past year ironically? I know having a baby tests people I just thought he’d love me more considering all I do (aka 90% of parenting)

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oldestmumaintheworld · 29/08/2022 11:51

He sounds nasty and immature. I would ditch him rapidly.

Nagado · 29/08/2022 11:57

He’s beyond dismissive. He sounds like he doesn’t actually like you. Everyone has their rough periods and their off days. Absolutely everyone. But one of the most basic requirements of being in a good relationship with someone is that you’re nice to each other. That’s not happening here.

Shoxfordian · 29/08/2022 12:37

He doesn’t sound very nice to you
Why are you with him?

GGG30 · 29/08/2022 13:30

I do love him and we have a son. He’s changed a lot since we had our son and I mean I have too

its just sad he’s different to the person I got with

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Aquamarine1029 · 29/08/2022 13:31

What a horrible environment to raise a child in. Get out and move on.

Afonavon · 29/08/2022 13:41

What a shitty way for him to treat you.

You have two choices:

  1. Stay, hoping for him to change…(he won’t, he will most likely behave worse). Your child will see this behaviour as acceptable and this will create a blueprint for their future relationships. Do you want this for your child?
  2. Leave him. You will then either be single (freedom for this arseholery behaviour of his, hooray), or meet someone new and better. you actively must decide never ever to accept being treated like this again. Your child will see that you are not accepting of arseholery behaviour and not behave like this or accept this in their own future.
TL:DR…LTB
martha4clark · 29/08/2022 17:01

Loving someone means you treat them with kindness and respect. He isn't doing this. Please have a serious conversation with him and tell him you are not prepared to stay with him unless he starts to treat you better.

GGG30 · 29/08/2022 21:51

I don’t know what to do I do love him and we have a child together

i just miss the person he was

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