Please can anyone come up with any answers i haven’t?
my husband’s work is mainly wfh with occasional meetings in london or cambridge on a few days notice. He also works for cambridge university so needs to be there a couple of times a week during the three (short) terms. He loves his job(s).
my family live in Cornwall - parents would love to see DGC more often, and DGC would love to see more of them. We would get childcare backup which we have never had. Plus there are fields and space and seaside in Cornwall.
we currently live in Hertfordshire, and i work in a job with no wfh which would be very hard to find anything similar in Cornwall or Cambridge (lots of competition for the few vacancies that arise). However, regardless of move i think i should leave my current role soonish for my mental health. I have bad memories associated with cambridge and prefer not to go there.
we have no good secondaries in our Hertfordshire town which will be an issue in 3 years, so need to think about moving. But where? It will be v.expensive to move so don’t want to do a temporary move and then another, plus it would be too much upheavel for kids leaving schools/friends.
we have gone around in circles approximately x400. It is too far for me/kids to live in cornwall and him commute at weekends (just under 6 hours). If we go away from cambridge but not cornwall, e.g anywhere in between, are we getting the worst of both worlds - the expense of moving, children upset at moving schools, no DGP at the other end? If we go to cornwall dh will be miserable at losing his career, even if he continues to wfh he will be too far out of the loop and will eventually lose opportunities/ employment.
Gah! I am so tired of not being able to fix this. has anyone been in this situation and found a way to make it work?