What's the definition of a dead beat dad??

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Obviously one that isn't involved at all is a deadbeat... my dad never bothered with me but I can't miss what I never had. Sucks but that's life.

could also apply to mums but we know it's most commonly deadbeat dads

but what about the dads who haven't totally disappeared but show up for an hour or so once every few months??? The dads who prioritised their new family over their older child/children?? the dads who do F all for their kids but the kid think it's wonderful when they show up a few times a year??

is that a deadbeat too??

Yes.

Little to no interest in their child. Not there for events eg birthday, Christmas, school plays, parents evenings etc.

Doesn't financially support them.

Thanks.

He rocked up on his birthday so give him that but he only stayed for 10 minutes as he had to get back... never been to a school play or parents evening etc. he does show at Christmas with some gifts so like a Disney dad. Last year he turned up at Christmas after not seeing him in 6 months.

he only lives 5 minutes away to distance us no issue.

Maintenance is paid but it's pittance!

on the times he has seen DS, he's upset him but talking about the holidays and days out he's had with his other kids. I would not expect them to take DS BUT don't rub it in DS's face that they are a family he doesn't seem part of.

he's also not allowed in their house. I don't want to seem like all the hate is on the stepmother here (as I know stepmoms gets a hard time) but for some reason she doesn't like DS going around. God knows why. It's not like DS is any bother. On the rare occasion his 'dad' picks him up they literally go for a drive.

he's barely met his younger siblings.

he's also been a continuous let down all his life.