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It’s my birthday today. It’s been shitty.

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MrsJaneyLloydFoxe · 27/08/2022 23:08

I know I know I know this is self-indulgent and I honestly do have bigger, more serious problems in my life like many other people. But, today is my birthday and it’s just been a bit shitty and I feel down.

Spent the morning at home with DH and children - fucking bedlam as we left for a trip away this afternoon and no one was ready so I was packing/sorting/running around etc. Children wouldn’t stop fighting and DH has been distracted and stressed with an ongoing work issue.

Had a few cards from close family. Haven’t even had a message from loads of good friends (old friends/school friends/bridesmaids at my wedding type friends). Not a peep from DH’s family but they never bother with me anyway (also makes me sad).

Toddler vomited on me during the flight.
Endured early tea at hotel with children, screamed and fought (overtired, hungry etc). Just wanted it to be over.
Back to room, meant to have a larger room but hotel mixed it up and we’re all squashed in together - bed at 7pm with the youngest and have been laying in the dark whilst everyone else is snoring away.

There has been no great disaster, it’s just been a bit shitty and I wanted a small moan. DH was delighted with the early night. Oh well.

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dreamygirl25 · 27/08/2022 23:11

Aw happy birthday. Sorry its been shit. What's the plan for tomorrow?
Maybe next birthday you should take yourself away for the day!

girlmom21 · 27/08/2022 23:12

Happy birthday - sorry it's been shit. When you wake up tomorrow tell everyone you're redoing your birthday as nobody make it special today and you'll do everything you want!

BitOutOfPractice · 27/08/2022 23:13

Aww op I’m sorry it’s been a bit crap. Happy birthday from me anyway and perhaps you could have birthday mark 2 tomorrow. Not the same I know but make your voice heard so it’s about what you want

bloodywhitecat · 27/08/2022 23:14

Happy birthday! I hope tomorrow is better Flowers and Cake

It's mine tomorrow, no cards for me either. I am away for a few days and am trying to keep positive about tomorrow but it my first one since DH died and everything just feels so fucking painful.

Have you got anything nice planned for tomorrow?

Lentil63 · 27/08/2022 23:15

Happy birthday, sounds like you’re on a little holiday. A birthday is just a day and sometimes we put a lot of expectations and pressure on one day. I’d look on this as your birthday trip and instead of being fed up with today, look forward to tomorrow. I hope it’s fun for you.

MrsJaneyLloydFoxe · 27/08/2022 23:17

@bloodywhitecat happy birthday for tomorrow - hope this year brings happy times for you. I am so sorry for the loss of your DH.

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Raul57 · 27/08/2022 23:18

Mine been shitty for a long time but its been my fault as I moan and moan and don't like organised events but informal ones.

"cards from family....." who cares it too hyped. When you are a child its different but once earning it, personally I don't give it a flying .....

It's just another day

Take care and no offence intended.

MrsJaneyLloydFoxe · 27/08/2022 23:20

@Lentil63 no, it’s a trip to see DH’s family. We live very far away so had to break the journey at a hotel tonight before travelling onwards.

MIL texted me earlier today with a message about an outing she has planned for later in the week for our son. No mention of my birthday!

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MrsJaneyLloydFoxe · 27/08/2022 23:23

I know people feel differently about birthdays but it’s not at all about money being spent/fuss being made etc - I genuinely believe it’s a nice thing to celebrate another year, more time, I’m grateful to be getting older

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bloodywhitecat · 27/08/2022 23:26

MrsJaneyLloydFoxe · 27/08/2022 23:17

@bloodywhitecat happy birthday for tomorrow - hope this year brings happy times for you. I am so sorry for the loss of your DH.

Thank you, I am taking my fosterling for a walk along the river estuary then we are getting the train back, he is going to LOVE it (he's only 2), then I might raise a glass to me and DH (it was his birthday at the start of the month).

Metimeneededasap · 27/08/2022 23:32

Happy Birthday 🥳.I had a rubbish birthday basically fitting in with my adult son and husband!! Drove for two hours to meet up so they could go sailing the day before ,where boat is !! I was absolutely bloody fuming TBH but CBA to mansplain why I was massively pissed off !! It was only as I was driving back that I realised how bloody annoyed I was !!

SquirrelSoShiny · 27/08/2022 23:57

Happy birthday! 🥳

Quitelikeacatslife · 28/08/2022 09:02

Hope today is better , I don't think it is unreasonable at all to say that as your birthday was spent travelling, shall we plan a family celebration whilst away? Can in laws babysit for a night?

DillyDilly · 28/08/2022 09:23

A birthday on a travel day was never going to be fun!

Hollywolly1 · 23/11/2022 23:10

Honestly you need to just call it birthday week as you have a better chance of things going your way,another 6 days to ho yay🌺

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