I have a 3 and 5 year old and am 33. Married for 7 years, together for over 12 years.
I have been debating a 3rd child for over a year and have sadly come to the conclusion that I cannot do it. I know I am so lucky to have a boy and a girl 22 months apart but I can’t shake the feeling of a 3rd. the reason I can’t go for it is that I don’t think my marriage would survive. We have been struggling on and off since having children and all the stresses involved and I know a 3rd would push us over the edge. we are currently in a bad patch! My husband is keen for a 3rd but I just can’t do it as I know we need to prioritise saving what we have.
Were any of you desperate for a 3rd child, but stuck at 2 and came to peace with it?
we love to travel and have active days out so I know a 3rd would stop that with a 4 year gap but other than that I can’t see many other benefits of stopping!