Best wedding present ideas?

[Lucielllle87]

Invited to a wedding with no gift list (they say no present). But I can’t turn up empty handed!

What’s the best wedding present you got?

Anyone ?

Cash!

Ditto. I’ve got a wedding next month with no gift list as they say no present. I’ve actually got them this card game as a jokey present and a photo frame engraved with their names and the date. My DM is giving them a rose called ‘Amazing Couple’.

Suddenly had an irrational worry that it might be the same wedding and now they’re going to get duplicates of the aforementioned gifts!

Money money money

Ha! The wedding I’m attending is in December (thinking ahead!), so not next month - don’t worry!

Would money seem a bit weird? Cash in an envelope?!?

Respect their wishes.
They said "no present".

A card with money is always a safe bet.

But don’t you think saying that is because they’re being polite? I wouldn’t turn up to someone’s house for dinner without a bottle of wine / bunch of posies / chocolate or something, so it feels odd to come without a present.

Maybe a gift voucher? I really don’t feel right about cash in an envelope! The person is a peer. That’s the sort of thing I’d give someone I was a generation older than.

Money

We said no presents as it’s second time around for both of us and felt a bit embarrassed! Lots of people got us presents anyway which was really kind - we had different sorts of booze, plants for garden, cash, a beautiful lantern for candles, gift vouchers for a posh cheese shop, a lovely throw for the bed, a cook book. It was all so appreciated, we were thrilled!

This is why, despite the moaning on here about them being "grabby", gift lists are the way to go.
Whether the couple really don't want presents or are just being polite, and really do expect presents, they are going to end up with a shedload of vases, bottles of wine, photo frames, and vouchers for things they will never get around to using (eg theatre vouchers, massages). Whereas a gift list allows people to say what they would really like, and also allows guests to buy gifts that go together, like the same wine glasses to make a set.
Sorry OP, just having a rant, I know it doesn't help you.

Op do you know why they said no present?

I am on a long mission to declutter - so if I were to marry again (unlikely!) I would say no presents - and mean it.

Apols to a pp but a jokey card game would be charity shopped. I mean I would say thank you of course.

If you really feel your presence is not enough, then cash is always good. Best gifts we got were a steamer from our list (used every week) and pesetas for our honeymoon (pre-euro) from a relative who worked in a bank. But cash is a winner.

btw I went to a 70th birthday do the other week and took nothing. Pretty sure anything I had taken would not have been needed or wanted. I went along and wished them well which was valuable, surely?

Cash. We're Asian and cash is what you give for every occasion. As a ballpark for weddings you try and give enough to cover the cost of your attendance at the wedding ie the cost of the meal/drinks. We're Chinese so the cash goes in a decorated envelope. You could just put it in a card though.

For my own wedding my favourite gift was a pair of cake forks with our surname stamped on them. We use them all the time. We also got a couple of nice photo frames (which reminds me I need to get a picture printed to fit in one of them).

As @clary said - a 'jokey' card game might get paid with once. A picture frame engraved with names would be annoying because if it wasn't to our tastes we couldn't give it away/exchange it.
(Me and my husband both have very different taste in picture frames). Also we rent so aren't allowed to put pictures up so we have little space to put pictures.
Seriously...they don't want gifts.

played with not paid

Money cash in a card or a cheque (loved getting old fashioned cheques addressed to us both)

We did not want traditional gifts as we were both nearly 40 but didn't want to ask for money so said nothing. About 15 years ago was a trend to put a little poem about wanting money but that was seen a grabby so now it seems to me the trend is to not mention gifts and hope for cash. The two wedding I went to this year had no mention. Of gifts.

Two weddings I've been to this year had very few "boxed gifts". If mist a bottle of champagne is nice.

Enough cash to cover the meal is a crude but realistic rule of thumb as a minimum and more if family etc

This is all super helpful! Thank you. I hadn’t really thought about perhaps they have enough “stuff” and don’t want more. The bride isn’t a big drinker, so not sure a delicious sparkling wine would go down as well for her as it would for me! So I think I’ll take your majority ruling and do cash!

I must admit, I feel weird doing cash - but then maybe she doesn’t like John Lewis etc if I got vouchers for there?!?

@Lucielllle87 don't send a cheque as suggested by a PP. Many people have no local bank to go and deposit them.

I can pay cheques in on my online banking app by uploading a photo of it.

Ok...@Bernadinetta if the OP knows 100% for certain that her friends have a bank account that can do that.
But she is ignoring their request for no gifts so 🙄

Gift vouchers are fab. Less impersonal than cash and if chosen carefully, quite useful to the recipients. Just make sure you know where they like to spend their money first.

My absolute favourite wedding gift from my "no gifts please" wedding was, of all things, a glass thistle. Smaller than a pen and hand blown by a Scottish artist. It matched the wedding theme (purple, thistles, and, well, Scottish) and to this day is pride of place next to my wedding photo. I am so glad they didn't honour our no gift wishes, especially now as the lovely lady passed away since.

Cash!