Stopped trying

[purpleme12]

I have/had a friend who I kept trying to meet up with it was pretty much me who always suggested it.
She'd always say ok I'll check with OH, then nothing, then a while after, I'm so sorry I've not been in touch such and such happened. Then the same thing would happen again after a while. And the same thing again pretty much. In the end I felt if I said if she wanted to meet up she'd have to tell me when (because she always said she wanted to meet up but it never came to fruition) and left it. As I felt if I kept doing it I'd come across as pestering.

She never got back to me. Never suggested meeting or tried.

Does this mean she wasn't bothered?
If she was bothered she'd have texted wouldn't she and met up

I don’t think it necessarily means she ‘wasn’t bothered’. It could mean she has a controlling DH. If she relies on him for childcare while she’s out, it could be he is either flaky and disorganised about his work schedule, and/or has the kind of job that involves unpredictable hours or trips — my own husband, though unselfish and fabulous, will have to fly off overseas at no notice for work and when we lived somewhere where we had no evening childcare options other than one another, for a while it did severely limit my social life. Either I agreed an outing with friends and often had to cancel at short notice, or I hesitated before making plans because I knew I would probably have to cancel, which gets annoying for the other person/people after a while.

I am not sure that he does like me, her DH. (I don't see him ever and haven't for years but used to know him.)
But I think she sees her other friend more.
I want sure what else to do in the end. I felt like I'd be pestering if I kept suggesting it so I stopped.
And no one contacted me.
And I'm too scared to ask her why as I don't want to hear that she might not like me.
Honestly I don't understand it either. If I wanted to see someone I would

And yes it hurt me.
But maybe she doesn't need a friend like I do.
So she doesn't need to try.

We hadn't seen each other for almost a year cos of lockdown (not the first one) when I started suggesting meeting up again.
And then a whole year probably by the time I said let me know when if you do want to meet up, putting it in her court
So why would you not want to commit if you wanted to see someone

Give her one more chance, if she fobs you off again then leave it