Dating is easier in your 30s... Right?

[Leeda89]

I'm at a crossroads in my life, kind of a now or never type situation, and wondering if I became single now what dating would realistically be like.

Got fucked around a lot in my late teens/early 20s by men who just wanted a shag, but surely they can't still be this immature...? 😬

I'm fully expecting my dating pool to be much smaller, but I'm wondering if men in their 30s are typically looking for more viable and serious relationships now? Or are a lot of them still just looking for a shag?

Most are looking for a shag or unwilling to commit. A lot also have lots of baggage or unemployed. Its hell out there, good luck!

Fuck 😂

The ones who want to settle down will do so at any age. The ones who only want a shag will keep on only wanting a shag until the day they die.

May the odds forever be in your favour ✌

Lori Gottlieb wrote a book (very controversial at the time) called 'Marry Him! The case for settling for Mr Good-Enough'.

I read it fully expecting to be furious all the way through (needed a bit of a rage at the time and thought it would provide it) but actually a lot of it made a lot of sense.

She talks about how by the time you're in your 30s and 40s, most of the 'good ones' are taken, so you're picking from the not-so-good ones OR the really good ones that are usually overlooked by women because they're 'too short', 'not handsome enough', 'not earning enough', etc.

If you're happy to focus your dating criteria on the things that actually matter most to you, you're likely to find a good one – but not if you're expecting the 'full package' that women are told we 'deserve' (goodness me I'm using a lot of inverted commas in this post!)

I actually came away from the book thinking it made a lot of sense, and appreciated how she re-examined her criteria for dating based on what she truly cared about most in a relationship.

Maybe it's useful to you, maybe not, but I sat down after reading it and thought about what I most cared about, and realised there are far fewer things on that list than I thought. It made me much more open to far more men, and far more appreciative of the man I now have.