Anyone else's MH really suffering due to DCs' holidays?

[MaitreKarlsson]

Posting for support really. I'm struggling with trying to work during what has seemed to be insanely long school holidays with DS 13, DD 11. We were on holiday for the first couple of weeks, then the rest seems to have been really difficult. DS happy to do a couple of camps, Dd has refused to do any such thing. They are both ultra lazy round the house - just at that age where everything is too much trouble. They just want to watch TV, be on devices, or complain about things that don't work. I'm racing around trying to do meals, feed and walk the dog, and do all necessary back to school/life admin while working 4 days a week from home. I have the longest to-do list at the moment, and seeing my kids flop around is driving me round the bend. Today's been particularly stressful. Anyone else in the same boat?

What are the consequences when they refuse to help? They should be getting time to relax in their holidays but they also should be helping with food prep, basic housework and pet care. Have you assigned them specific tasks?

Can you delegate meal making to them? One night on one night off cooking each? They are old enough to be able to manage it. It feels like you need to push back on some of your own (and their) expectations.

It sounds tough though. The countdown is on!

Bit similar here,come back from work at 1.30pm and son 14 is just emerging from his sleep. Then isnt hungry until 3ish while I'm trying to tempt him with food as he has had a growth spurt and looks gangly.,Roll on new term.

Tbh you're being a martyr. My dc are teens and they don't get a choice! They have lazy days but they have to help out, ds put the washing on the line this morning, dd cooked dinner last night, they both did the dishwasher and the kitchen after. Why are you letting them do fuck all?

We’ll they can start by taking it in turns to walk the dog. Being on screen all day will only take them more grumpy. We have screens off between 10.30 and 5 every day in the holidays. Although they can watch TV. So they can either go to a camp or entertain themselves.
then you can take them out somewhere on your day off.

Depends on what you expect doesn’t it?

i never expected my teens to be doing chores whilst I was working to make me better - aka I’m not the only one to work / how unfair they are still on hols and I’m not.

i expected them to do the same chore they’ve always done. Plus some prep of lunches. The fact Ive been busy with all the admin for the new year isnt their problem imo.
so yes they’ve spent a lot of time in their bedroom, playing games etc… hat else did you expect them to do?

Why are you trying to tempt him with food, if he's hungry he'll eat, probably at 1am. Their circadian rhythms are backwards I'd just let it go tbh.

Ok - I'm cracking the whip (again) - let's see if it works today. They are off screens 9-12, so I'm impressed @underneaththeash . They have jobs but they don't feel any time pressure - as a result they don't get done. So I will be a bit more prescriptive.
Thanks for support everyone.