Age gap relationships

[JackandSam]

Can they ever work?

I've met someone at a mutual interest group. We've known each other about 6 months and get on great. We see each other outside of the group and have loads in common. I definitely find her attractive and there's chemistry there. I really want to ask her on a date. The only issue is she's 16 years older than me. I'm 38 (nearly 39) and she's 54. Do you think this would be a mistake? I'm generally attracted to older partners but my only long term relationship was with someone my age.

38 and 54 is fine. 68 and 84 may be much less fine.

Hmmm yeah, I see what you mean. But who knows how long it would last!

I have an 11 year age gap relationship, neither of us notice it too often. If you like each other then why not see what happens?

I had a 39 year age gap for six years. It was ok. He was just a bit set in his ways. Currently In another age gap relationship and it's fine. Won't go anywhere for other reasons. (He's not married)

39 years! Wow. That's impressive.

I'm not sure if this would go anywhere or even if I'd want it to (or any relationship) but it would be nice to have a romantic and sexual connection with someone again, whether it becomes a LTR or not.

15 year gap here. Been together for ten years, happy as clams.

15 year

No idea what’s going on with my posts.

FIFTEEN

A family member, at the age of 66, married a woman of 30 and they were blissfully happy. It was a real love match. He died in 1979 and she still misses him.

my close friends have a 15yr age gap but he's the older one. They've been together since it was almost illegal but are still married with kids after nearly 20 years.

😂 brilliant

We're both women. Maybe I should have said that? Not sure if it makes a difference?

I'm 16 years older than my husband, we've been together for years and we still work really well together. As the years have gone on we've both forgotten about the age gap and it's not something either of us or anyone we know mentions.

This is a similar age gap to me- also two women- it's not that big of a deal
The only thing is if you're reliant on benefits the older person can't apply for pension credit in the same way they could if they were single.

hahhaahahaaa I was gonna say 1 year? That's hardly a gap 😂

Call me selfish but that's a big reason I wouldn't want to settle down with someone 36 years older than me. I don't want to be widowed for decades. I know it could happen anyway but much less risk if you're a similar age.

That wlw dating pool is a lot smaller so if you have met someone and clicked, I’d give it a go? Looking around, age may not be such an issue in same sex relationships, or I may just be making a sweeping generalisation!

I agree with you and wouldn't want that either, but they were besotted with each other and it was in the days when far fewer couples just lived together.

Thanks, good to know. We aren't, but who knows what the future holds!

My husband is 13 years old than me and we get along great, been married nearly 20 years.

A family member is 20 years older than his wife and they're happily married with two teenagers.

Plenty of people with no age gap who don't manage to make it work either 🤷‍♀️

I think the age gap is fine, so long as you both have the same expectations for the relationship/your future if it becomes serious. By which I mean if,
despite being difference ages, you have compatible life plans.

He’s 63 and I’m 47. Been together 13 years

hes just retired which is driving me nuts as I work from home but other than that no issues