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Would you leave it or get in touch?

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Imoit · 24/08/2022 08:23

DC is 18 months. When pregnant DP’s drinking escalated and he got charged for drink driving. That wasn’t why I left, I left as he obviously didn’t cope well with this or being forced to cut alcohol, it seriously halted his career progression and he just spiralled into misery. I always remained open and willing to talk and certainly didn’t cut him from involvement in any way. However, he just withdrew snd I got on with it. It came to my attention yesterday that he’s been promoted - quite a big deal in this industry and definitely means he’s functioning again. I’m surprised he’s not been in touch. Would you get in touch? I personally don’t want him in my life myself but it would be nice for dc before they begin to notice he’s not there. I have reached out before but heard nothing back so stopped in the last 6/7 months. He does pay maintenance but he and I never discussed it, just went through online system

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ShouldersBackChestOutChinUp · 24/08/2022 10:24

He's clearly not bothered, is he?

I mean, would you be setting up your dc for continual disappointment? Being let down etc.

You know the man.

I personally don't think people change tbh. If he's not bothered about his kid now, I don't think he ever will be.

Fladdermus · 24/08/2022 10:29

I woudn't. Why would you risk bringing a man with alcohol issues and a conviction for drink driving into your very young child's life? What happens when he next slips up and goes driving while drunk with your child in the car?

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 24/08/2022 10:29

Nope. Let sleeping dogs lie. If he wanted to be a good Dad, he'd have been in touch, or will be when he feels he can be a sober one.

DD doesn't need him in her life if he doesn't want to be or isn't reliably sober.

don't invite trouble or upset!

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Fraaahnces · 24/08/2022 10:34

Leave it.. also let cms know about his promotion.

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