Career and children

[Lucyintheskywithrubies]

Talking to a colleague today about a mutual friend who is working her way up the legal ladder doing really important and high stress/important roles.

Since having my DCs any ambition for my professional career has completely gone down the drain and has never returned. I just don't care anymore and simply want to be with my family as much as possible. My DCs are 8 and 5. I work four days but would quit in a heartbeat if I could afford to. I can't imagine being able to switch off from work to be with them doing a high powered role (can't even do it now and I am not doing a role that it is horrendously stressful).

Does it ever return? I don't want it to tbh.

I don't understand your question to be honest, if you don't particularly want your ambition to return why does it matter whether it might? Or what your mutual friend is doing?

I was convinced that having a baby would have virtually no impact upon my career. It did. Once I'd given up work to stay at home I never wanted to go back.

I've been self employed, waged part time, short term contracts and set up a company, and a couple of stints working full time and a couple of low hrs wfh jobs.

Weirdly I'm earning more and being offered more responsibility. I've reached an age where employers and managers make the assumption I'm not just competent in the role I've applied to, but capable of more, and therefore must want promotion. I don't.

I resent any and all time I spend away from my family, my home and my dog. I don't miss my colleagues if I don't see them, but I miss my dog.

Ambition left and never returned.

@MiniTheMinx i could have written a lot of that! I was adamant I was going back full time after three months 😂I also resent the time spent away too. I get scared it’ll all come to an end, this lovely family bubble.