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How to make friends as an adult

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flourishing · 23/08/2022 22:00

Tips on making friends, please?

I have a lovely life in so many ways but I've realised that I don't have any social life at all. I don't live where I grew up, although I've been here a while now, and the only friends I've got here are from work - we talk a lot, go for lunches, etc but we don't socialise outside work. I have lots of acquaintances who I've met over the years - mums from school, baby groups, neighbours, that kind of thing. We text occasionally and have nice chats when I see them but that's it.

I've just seen a couple of photos this week that have brought all of this home - three of the mums from school camping together with their families and six of my neighbours - all women about my age - on a night out. The mums have known each other as long as I've known them (children in the same class), as have my neighbours (newbuild housing estate - we all moved in at the same time). I don't know how to be included in things like this. How have they managed to make friendships and I haven't?

Can anyone help me, please? How do I go about converting acquaintances, of which I have a decent amount, into friends? What should I be doing? I'd love to have a group of friends to invite over for a meal and bottle of wine but I just feel it's never going to happen.

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Nowifi · 23/08/2022 22:40

No idea but I am in the same position! It's quite disheartening and social media doesn't help!

GotTheConch · 23/08/2022 22:47

I know exactly what you mean. How about initiating an evening with a bottle of wine etc at yours, with your acquaintances and one or two of them might turn into friends? I know it’s hard. People can only say no, though…

Toddlerteaplease · 23/08/2022 22:55

Similar here. None of my friends share my interests. My closest friend lives 100 miles away and rarely has free time So I do most things on my own. Off sick from work at the minute and messaged every one I can think off to meet for coffee but no one was free. Sorority eventually.

Toddlerteaplease · 23/08/2022 22:55

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