Anyone else missing their DC during holidays

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This is the longest period (of divided holidays) without my DC, 2 weeks of summer holidays, i’m working, trying to keep busy, have hobbies etc but it kills me not to see them. I never wanted this, I’m very sad that I miss out on them, I feel bitter when people moan about their kids as I’m desperate to be with mine 100% off the time, I adore them, they’re amazing. It’s so unfair. I’ve realised that I’ll miss out on 40% of their whole life because I picked a shit husband and there’s nothing I can do about it.

Mine are just back from a few weeks away with exh. It gets easier as the years go by but I still fine it hard. I’m getting better at using the time for myself. This year I have been away alone and kept very busy volunteering and planning activities. It is tough but you will find a way as time passes to make it less painful

I have 50/50 contact with my ds11.

It does get easier with time. I got a dog which helps massively as she makes me feel like a mum even when ds is with his dad. Otherwise I try to make the most of my time with ds, I also look at things from ds pov, he would not want less than 50% time with each of us as he loves us both. How old are your dc? A solicitor told me that once ds is 12 or 13 he will pretty much be able to live where he likes when he likes as there's not much either exh or I will be able to do about it as he grows up. Focus on doing things for yourself when the dc are with your ex.

Thanks both, they’re 8 & 10, I guess you’re right it will be different when they’re older and choose where to go.
We split up 5 years ago so you think I’d be used to it by now. Probably doesn’t help that I’m single.

It's horrible. I didn't shave children in order to have to share them. My two shared ones are teens now. One lives with her dad (long story) and the other barely sees her dad which is her choice. I used to cry after leaving them at school knowing he was collecting them for the weekend. They weren't wanting to go which made it worse. It took a few years to settle in to things