Sentimental person but feeling nothing for baby, will it change?

[Remiris]

Just that really! I’m 30 weeks and honestly, I couldn’t admit this in real life but after the breakdown of my marriage in month two, I’ve felt nothing for the baby at all. I’ve been waiting for it to start but it hasn’t. I’ve tried all that talking bollocks but I just feel like an idiot. I feel no connection like I did before the marriage broke down. I’m instinctively protective but that’s it. No feeling and definitely no love.

Dont worry. Even when the baby was placed on my chest I was like ooo, a baby.
Completely out of it, and still no overwhelming rush of love.

Even after the baby was here at home I questioned whether I loved him like I should as didn’t have that gush I expected from watching the movies.

But then I nearly lost my little one at just a couple of weeks old. Holding him in my arms whilst medical people rushed around me with all kinds of equipment and that’s when I knew I love him more than anything ever before. It’s not like a gushy lust type feeling. It’s a calm, steady type of love which is hard to notice until it’s all falling apart.

Don’t you worry. You will love them I promise.

*brings a tear every time I think about it

Don't worry about it. I didn't feel like I loved my baby in utero or for a good few weeks. It's a stranger and for some people that takes getting used to.

I was ambivalent towards my second child before she arrived. She would wriggle and kick about constantly in the womb and i remember thinking this should feel magical but it's actually very annoying. I remember DH telling me how much he was looking forward to the new baby and I was just thinking oh god it'll be so much work.

Then she came and DH held her first because I was on the operating table and I remember like the poster above thinking ooh a baby. But the love came in quite fast especially when I realised she fitted right in and DS loved her and everything was going to be alright. Now she's the little sun we all revolve around and I couldn't love her more.