I want another child but it's not a good idea

[MandyTheSwimmer]

Mum to 1 nearly in school. Split with his dad at 18 months and I have 70 PC custody. Its been hard work. I've met someone new we're only a year in but due to being mid 30s we have spoken about kid. He's happy either way. I'm broody but I don't think I can go back there

Lots will call me insane. But i knew dh was the one i wanted to 'start all over again with' i was a single parent when we got together. But had been friends for years.
Had our 1st date. He stayed over. Basically never went home. He knew my dc as we were friends and he often took ds for football matches etc
After a few weeks we were both broody. We starter ttc after 6m took a while due to fertility issues

Married and 2 dc later.
Sometimes you just know.

It took me 18 months to conceive and I had a placental abruption too. I've done most of the parenting with ds and I just couldn't do that amount on my own again.

Sounds like you know your decision already

🤔

At the risk of being old fashioned, unless new partner is actively discussing marriage/his role as a permanent step-father/family finances then talk of having another baby is foolish. Make sure he's permanent before committing to a permanent child with him.

You can be permanent without being married though.

I wouldn’t decide until your DC is at school.

How long was your relationship with your ex?

You can be permanent without being married though.

You can, but marriage is a good way to test whether he means in-sickness-or-in-health or just while-it-suits-me

I was with my ex for about 6 years. Ds would probably do well in a bigger family but 😖

I'm 36 too so I need to consider it more seriously.