If it was your decision to get divorced do you ever regret it?

[TheOceanClub]

Just that really. Having some thoughts tonight..

None. No regrets at all. To quote my then 18 year old daughter about four years after the divorce, on the subject of her father, “Aaagh, I don’t know how you managed to stay married to that man for twenty years!”

No, 4 years on and no. I am significantly happier now. New partner, new home, new lease of life. I am authentically me. I am still sad that my children won’t grow up knowing one home and one family, but they do have two happy homes so it’s not something I dwell on.

Nope. No regrets. These days I look back and wonder how I stayed so long. Much happier now.

I never once regretted it - however I did regret not doing it sooner and not getting my fair share of the equity in the house.

No ... my only regret is not doing it sooner

No regrets, not even for a second x

Zero regrets. Still celebrating 6 years on.

Nope. Nothing bad happened, just weren't compatible anymore.

No regrets whatsoever (divorced 2 years).

Nope. Only regret is that I didn't do it sooner

No, no and nope!
still celebrating and definitely happier.

Not me. But I do know someone who did.
She had a successful career which she put on hold for the kids. Her DH was a very high earner and she wanted to be a sahm for the children. She still yearned to go back to her career but it was too late really - she got a small stint in her field when the kids were older and it gave her a new zest for life and she dumped her DH.

He was devastated but she was loving life with her new job and confidence. After a year, her contract ended and she couldn't find regular work in her field which is extremely competitive. She didn't like the dating scene which she thought she would. She's in her lates 40s and feels lonely.

She does say she regrets it and rushed it. It's too late to get back with DH as he met and married someone else ten years younger and had a new baby within a year and is very happy.

I guess it depends on why you divorced in the first place.

No. Wake up delighted every day not to share a bed or house with XH and as others said should have done it way way way sooner which would have been logistically impossible but I do regret the years I stuck with him despite numerous ultimatums issued about his behaviour.

My only regret was that I didn't do it a lot sooner. Wasted too much time trying to fix something that was clearly unfixable. Wish Mumsnet had been around back then to tell me to LTB.

Nope. No regrets whatsoever. It was soul-destroying being with him.