I've hit my limit

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Does Anyone else just snap? You know how that's it enough is enough?

Petty and minor row with DP recently. And I use the 'D' very loosely at the moment. But I've honestly had enough of banging my head against a brick wall. So much so that I don't even have the energy in me to be annoyed.

No big backstory. Just same old story of woman having a uterus and being responsible for everything in the home as well as trying to hold
Down a job, cope with anxiety and raise two teens at the same time.

Yes that is exactly how I feel. Numb, and past caring.
To the outside world I'm pretty sure people think I have it all.

Yes. Happened last Christmas and am planning my escape. I keep wavering though.

I can't figure out what to do. Carry on plodding along like this until the end of time. Or, go it alone and feel far less stressed and anxious.

I could have written this thread Op. I feel broken.

I can't work out what to do and to cap it all I got a voicemail from a woman who is supposed to be helping me (similar to Women's Aid) that she had taken me off her books.

Things are much more improved Thankyou!

I'm less stressed and the rest of the household have started to pull their weight more!

For me it's just DH doesnt ever think ahead.

For example all the kids laundry is done over the weekend as its school uniform/PE kits etc. They take time to dry at this time of year too.

We were all out on saturday all day and I was out all Sunday morning too. At no stage did DH think "oooh, better get the kids laundry on". I did a load friday evening to hang overnight, then a load when we got back Saturday which we hung over night. 2 loads still to do today. I put one on before I left, assuming DH would hang it up and get the next load on. But nope, he says I didnt tell him to get it out 🤦🏻‍♀️ so I had to do it.

I also thought to put the dinner in the slow cooker both yesterday and today knowing we'd all be tired after yesterday. Not something he would have ever though to do.

It's that stuff that weighs me down, DH will do stuff. He'll do loads and not complain about it.......as long as I tell him what needs doing. And always being the one whose "on" is exhausting.

I don't have a DH but I did have teenagers who were blind to anything that needed to be done, but eagle-eyed for anything that wasn't done. They were also deaf toward requests for help. So one week, I quit.
I did my laundry, but not theirs. I made myself a sandwich and sat down with a book.
When they came whining "Where is my skirt I want to wear today?" "What's for dinner?" I said "I don't know. Wherever you left it, and whatever you want to fix for yourself." They scurried around slamming closet doors. They left dishes on the kitchen counter. They ate all the snacks they could find. (A proper supply of snacks was already hidden in my bedroom.)
By the end of a week, they both came to me begging and I set conditions.

1. You put your clothes in the hamper or they don't get washed. Clothes left on the floor will be deemed unwanted and given to GoodWill.
2. Dishes are loaded into the dishwasher when dirty and the dishwasher emptied when the dishes are clean. Food shopping will be done bi-monthly from the shopping list. If you want something write it down. If you get something, it has to last for at least two weeks. Regarding meals - if the kitchen isn't clean then I don't cook.

It wasn't a perfect solution - lots of whining the first week - but it did help. Once a few items of clothing disappeared and I had a sandwich for myself for dinner, they realized I meant business.

I don't argue anymore. Just pretend I am a single parent who happens to have a lodger who does occasional jobs and contributes financially. Sad.