So DH and I are in our 40's with teenage DC and DH wants to recapture his youth by getting a motorbike. I initially quite fancied the idea and we'd talked about days out now kids are older etc although his predominant reasoning was to cut petrol costs for work (he works countrywide and plans to switch between car and bike depending on weather, location etc) and just as something fun for himself.
Bikes have always worried me (since I had DC anyway, I spent a lot of time around them in my teens) from a safety perspective, just because you're so much more vulnerable but I must have been feeling brave the day we talked about days out together and gave him the impression I was up for it. Except now im back-pedalling, I just keep thinking that if we had an accident DC could be left with no parents and now I'm wondering if it would be utterly selfish to take the risk.
I know there are always risks in life but is this an irresponsible one? Has anyone else had this dilemma and can help me reason it out? For myself I really want to join DH and have some fun, but does this come under 'too risky' when you have DC? I'm tying myself in knots, DH is going to be so disappointed if I back out but I feel like I should be putting DC first. Can someone talk sense to me please?