I’m a disabled single mother of three children, one is disabled, and a STEM student. The Pandemic (along with me catching Covid and developing post viral fatigue) has added an extra two years to my degree.
But even if I had graduated, and were working in an NHS lab, for example, I’d still be fucked.
There’s also no guarantee my disabled child will handle the transition to secondary very well at all, which is fine whilst I’m still at Uni, but when I’m working, I can’t see my job lasting long if I’m forever being called home.
55% of my income goes on rent (not including the disability benefits I get for my child), I’m already struggling with £200 a month energy bills, I live in a listed cottage, in a rural area, and I don’t drive.
I can’t move, we were homeless and sofa surfing with friends for 3 months before I managed to get this house through word of mouth. I’m in the Midlands, I had to relocate across counties to keep a roof over our heads, move the children’s schools and face a commute twice as long as the one prior - which is only doable because Student Finance DSA fund my taxis to and from Uni. If I had to catch buses, it would take 2.5 hours to get there, which would mean I’d have to drop out of my degree.
Another child of mine has Coeliac and dairy intolerance, so their food isn’t cheap.
I pay my prescriptions via Direct Debit as I have repeats from my GP and my Psychiatrist.
UC take my student loan off me as if it were a wage - the previous system did not do that, so that’s left me £600 a month down.
I don’t qualify for hardship funds from Uni because I’m part time (PVF has absolutely wrecked my health, and I’m only 37, with no underlying health conditions).
I have no overdraft, credit cards, other credit or any access to them because I’m a student, so there’s no way to cover any essential bills that way.
I get the bare minimum child support from the father of my eldest two (he owns a house, drives, was given a 25K a year job straight out of school by a family member and earns a lot more than that now - CMS were useless because family member fiddles the books in such a way that it looks like he’s paid less than he is, alongside earning around 60K his parents also bought him a house mortgage/rent free, renovated it and pay for any ongoing maintenance - I know because he rubbed it in my face).
And fuck all from my abusive ex, who is an expert at dodging CMS.
I was raised by addicts who died when I was in my mid 20s, and my Grandparents are in their 80s without a pot to piss in.
So there’s also nobody for me to go cap in hand to.
I’ve been angry all my life, I was dealt a shit hand, did my best, and every time I seem to be making headway I get smacked down a couple of notches. But this? What’s happening now? It’s something else, I can’t even find the words