I need a reason ( excuse) to move house.

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Really, deeply unhappy where I live. It’s mega posh, thinks it’s far more than it is and I don’t fit in. But for the main reason which is too outing to state here I need a bloody good reason to move. Can’t use family as I don’t want to move onto their doorstep but will if it’s all I can come up with. I’m on my own and retired so can’t use job, husband etc..
Any ideas?

You want to live near the coast/mountains/in a big city/ small village so you’ve decided to go for it

I think we need a bit more context, who do you need to justify your reasons to? I'm assuming someone other than yourself (otherwise 'deeply unhappy' would cut the mustard).

Why do you need a reason to move?

The fact you've said you're deeply unhappy where you are is reason enough.

Failing that, you need to downsize because of cost of living

This. Why can’t you just move because you want to

Who do you need to explain yourself to? Surely if you’re on your own it’s fairly easy to decide you want to live somewhere else?

Say you want to downsize/upsize, you want to live nearer a big city, the coast or in the countryside depending on where you want to go, or that you need somewhere cheaper?

But realistically I don’t understand why you need any other reason than, you fancy living somewhere else!

Bills too high so you are moving somewhere more efficient?
Smaller garden to manage easily/bigger garden now you are retired?
Nearer to coast/new hobby etc?

Does it really matter? People move for all sorts of reasons so you can 'blame' it on whatever you like.

Simplifying your life as you get older?

You want to downsize, or move to a village, by the sea etc.

That you are not happy where you are in reason enough in itself.

Why do you need a reason other than the fact you want to? You've only yourself to think about- unless you have other local responsibilities?

Just move. It's no-one's business other than yours, unless they are affected.

Who would you have to give a reason to?

You fancy a change of scene.

You want to move to a more energy efficient house is another good one

This, you just want something different? Everyone likes a change every once in a while.

I hope whatever is making you deeply u happy is something that will go away with a move and whoever you feel the need to explain yourself to is reasonable.

I think we need a bit more info.

Are you meaning what do you tell your friends? in which case I’d tell them the real reason, that you are unhappy and/or don’t feel you fit in.

or are you meaning if you put your house on the market what do you tell an estate agent/prospective buyer? in which case I would just make something credible up.

Oh come on, just tell her that the arrangement is off. There's no need to move house! Or if you do want to move just move somewhere that you want to live in. There is no reason to justify it to anyone but if you have two you could say that one of your parents isn't very well and you have to live near them. Presumably once you move you won't have contact with this user?

Just tell her you can’t do it anymore. Is it your child/stepchild? Why have you agreed to do so much? Do you really want to move? You just tell her you’re tired and you no longer want to do her childcare, don’t justify yourself, just tell her no.

That's a ridiculous reason to move house! Just say no!

Just tell her you cannot offer the extent of childcare she needs and now you are retired you are going to be doing your own hobbies / interests / travel etc

If you want to move home fine but not to escape child care issues .

Why do you need a reason to move?
Just nice if you want to.

unless your asking us what you can tell the council in aid to get a swap?

If you want to move house, you don’t need a reason other than “I’m unhappy living here and I feel like I don’t fit in, so I’m moving.”

If you don’t want to live house, but just want to stop the childminding, then you need to tell the child’s parent it’s no longer possible to do childcare.

Thanks for all the replies and ideas. I was really worried I’d given too much info which could identify me in real life. But you’ve given me such good reasons to move I can start to make a plan and hopefully get a big chunk of my life back. 💐