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The rationale behind this?

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Pintret · 17/08/2022 13:01

I’m pregnant after a short relationship of 18 months which I thought had legs - he certainly gave that impression. Things were fine until four months pregnant, at which point he fled the scene, no announcement, no break up chat, nothing. He didn’t attend the 20 week scan for example… I text and invited him but he didn’t reply. It’s 5 weeks on and I’ve been in contact asking what his plans are, could he let me know, what does he want to do about finance and so on. He reads each one (they show delivered) and he is active on WhatsApp but has not replied to me. Whilst I appreciate we are far from teenage years so this sounds very immature - what do I do? He’s absolutely not married and has no kids. I’ve asked for an explanation and if he’s ok etc but nothing. I almost wish he’d removed me from his phone so I had some sort of closure yet he appears to see my messages. I thought I was ok initially but as the weeks have passed it’s played on my mind a lot as I could do with some idea as to what is going on before the baby is here.

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inmyslippers · 17/08/2022 13:06

How awful of him, are you completely sure no one else is on the scene ?

Pintret · 17/08/2022 13:07

@inmyslippers im almost certain but even if there was if he just told me then that would be clear and we could move forward. I think I even asked that a while ago.

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vincettenoir · 17/08/2022 13:09

Sorry that you have to deal with this. You and your lo deserve a lot better.

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picklemewalnuts · 17/08/2022 13:33

Totally ignore him. You're on your own. Keep his details to hand for CMS though.

If he wants to get involved at some point, like a decent human being, he'll have to get in touch with you. You'll have to work out what's best for your child at that point.

Homemadearmy · 17/08/2022 14:34

There is nothing you can do. The ball is in his court. I would stop reaching out to him for anything. He has your number and can get in touch if he wants too. I would not message him again until the baby is born. unfortunately you can't force him to be interested. Do you have family support?

DownNative · 17/08/2022 20:03

Sorry to hear you're going through this. Best thing you can do now is make plans for what YOU are going to do before your baby arrives.

Ensure your finances, support network and so on is all sorted.

It sounds like reality set in and he got a bad case of cold feet.

Itsthelookitsthelook · 17/08/2022 20:06

Are you in touch with any of his close friends or family? I don't condone his actions one bit, but could he have some kind of mental health issue? I'd be tempted to speak to his best mate, mum or sister etc.

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