Problems with own heritage!

[Citycentre3]

This is quite a complex issue and it is hard to explain but I shall try.
My family are all Southern European, but I was born in the UK.
I always dated people from the UK and I never intended to be with anyone from my own cultural background.
As it happens twelve years ago I did meet someone from my parents home village and we have been together ever since, but not without complication. The fact I grew up in the UK and he did not does throw up issues, where as on paper people may just think that we have a lot in common and get on great, but the opposite seems to be true. It got me wondering if other people have the same issues that are in a similar relationship? I would love to hear from anyone like this.

I think I understand what you mean.

DH and I are both British citizens, but he grew up in the Middle East as he has dual citizenship. He speaks with a northern English accent like me, although he's bilingual with the Middle Eastern language. On paper we look like two Brits, but he is totally non-British in his directness/bluntness, which can really get my back up.

Yes my DP is definitely blunt and rude also, but it is more than that. Totally obsessed with food like it is the only important thing. Having a rose tinted spectacle view of his homeland, where as I can objectively see the good and bad in both countries, and it goes on.

Stumbled over this thread and had to smile as my DP is also very blunt and rude and obsessed with food. Our lives revolve around “what shall we eat” 🤣🤦‍♀️

Not aure thatbis a cultural thing more a certain type of man thing.

Where in the middle east are they very blunt? They usually are indirect.

OP it sounds like you and your DP are just not compatible. Just because two people share the same ethnicity or heritage (or race or religion) doesn't mean they belong together.