Things my family have said to me

RandomMess · 14/08/2022 16:50

Stop spending time with them, they are probably contributing to how bas your MH is at the moment.

They are being downright cruel.

LaTangerina · 14/08/2022 16:51

LidFlipper · 14/08/2022 16:48

“I thought you already had the baby?” Pointing at my fat tummy.
“god your feet are weird”
“you were never the right shape to wear skirts”
“you’re hair is really bad, you should straighten it.”
“Hungry?” While pointing at my plate of food.

Every time I speak they talk over me. Anytime I talk about anything relating to my life they just Starr at me blankly and then carry in talking about something else.

They don’t know I spent most of the weekend planning to kill myself. Good job they got me today in a good mood. I don’t know why I bother anymore.

Family as in parents/siblings?
Or as in your husband & kids? If so how old are the kids?
If its parents & siblings could you look to having a goal of moving out?

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LidFlipper · 14/08/2022 16:51

My mum, grandparents and aunties and uncles.

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LidFlipper · 14/08/2022 16:53

Oh this is just today btw!

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KiffZapp · 14/08/2022 17:00

I relate

I moved to another county hundreds of miles away about 12 yrs ago and see my relatives once a year, twice if I'm feeling strong enough to deal with them. And this is only 3 of my relatives. The rest I have cut off entirely. They were nasty, toxic, abusive and a constant pecking at my self esteem.

Just because they're your family doesn't mean you have to put up with them. If they were friends, you'd stop seeing them. You can do that with family too.

I still have my issues, I never grew up knowing love or happiness. But if I'd stuck around putting up with it I don't think I'd still be here. I'd been seriously contemplating suicide frequently from the age of 12 and it would have gotten me eventually if I hadn't moved away and started again in my mid twenties.

Cut down your contact

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LidFlipper · 14/08/2022 17:24

KiffZapp · 14/08/2022 17:00

I relate

I moved to another county hundreds of miles away about 12 yrs ago and see my relatives once a year, twice if I'm feeling strong enough to deal with them. And this is only 3 of my relatives. The rest I have cut off entirely. They were nasty, toxic, abusive and a constant pecking at my self esteem.

Just because they're your family doesn't mean you have to put up with them. If they were friends, you'd stop seeing them. You can do that with family too.

I still have my issues, I never grew up knowing love or happiness. But if I'd stuck around putting up with it I don't think I'd still be here. I'd been seriously contemplating suicide frequently from the age of 12 and it would have gotten me eventually if I hadn't moved away and started again in my mid twenties.

Cut down your contact

I don’t think I could go no contact but definitely low contact. We moved away last year so dont see then much though my mum FaceTimes a few times a week to speak to the kids. My family are all so fucked.

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LaTangerina · 15/08/2022 08:54

LidFlipper · 14/08/2022 17:24

I don’t think I could go no contact but definitely low contact. We moved away last year so dont see then much though my mum FaceTimes a few times a week to speak to the kids. My family are all so fucked.

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I'd concentrate on your own family ie your kids if I were you, your other family sound toxic & don't deserve you

ChagSameachDoreen · 15/08/2022 08:55

Why are you spending time with these people?

SoyMarina · 15/08/2022 09:08

Moving away was the best thing I ever did. (I moved to the UK from Ireland as soon as I could )
Since I was about 7 my mothers’s sisters would say horrible things to me.
It got worse when I became a teenager.
I didn’t invite them to my wedding or take my children to meet them as babies.
Years have gone by and I have rarely seen them with the exception of my parents’ funerals.
Of course my parents, especially my mother as they were her younger sisters, should have stopped them.
I resent her for that!