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Need help - abuse related

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Lostonwhattodo · 14/08/2022 14:21

The whole story is all over the place, so I'm going to put the most important info here.

I've been told that a friend is abusing his girlfriend, who I know only briefly.

I was asked by other friends to spend some time with her whilst we were out at a bar (to keep her away from her boyfriend) and she herself made some comments/allusions to abuse, to me, to my boyfriend and to a couple of our mutual friends.

She was completely high and drunk, no clue how seriously to take this.

Friend group have all agreed that if true, it wouldn't surprise any of us at all as friend is a bit of a bad dude.

I've been asked, by friends, to get in contact with her but I have no clue if this is a good idea. Up until now, I've only ever said hi to her whilst out, have rarely had longer than a 2 minute conversation with her in the past.

She doesn't seem to have anyone, no family around her.

She said "help me" to me a few times, but again, no clue if she was just having a bad trip.

Any clue/advice/opinions on what to do? No, I don't really want to get involved but equally if it was me in this situation, I would want someone to help me. So I'm lost and not sure what to do.

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Itsnotthesameasitwas · 14/08/2022 17:48

Is it just down to you or are the other friends going to do anything?

If it wouldn’t surprise you if he was abusive, why are you friends with him?
I guess in the first instance, if you don’t have her number to text her, then you could reach out via SM & just arrange a time for a coffee so you could say, privately, that you are wondering if she is okay and that you are concerned about her and take it from there?
I don’t have any experience of DA so just wanted to bump in the hope someone with some knowledge comes along.

Lostonwhattodo · 14/08/2022 18:17

They seemed to think it would be best coming from me as I was the only woman there when all of this came out.

He's not my friend, more of an acquaintance from afar who I'll have a 5 minute chat to when I see him.

I'm just worried that as I barely know the girl itll look strange for me to reach out all of a sudden, certainly if he is reading her messages.

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