Rural life as a single mum…unlikely I will meet anyone?

[teyi]

I live in a village in the midlands with 3 year old dc. I go in Birmingham once a week for work. Other than that it’s pretty quiet, not much going on.

Is this the reason I can’t find someone? I do date but nothing ever comes of it. I wonder if I moved back to the city that would be better.

I think its hard to meet people naturally and in a villiage probably even harder mainly because if you don't have a good network to support you and go out weekly where would you meet someone?

I've been on Hinge (never thought I'd see the day). Been talking with a guy since June and he's quite nice and respectful. Would you consider a dating app OP?

I live in a city close to the centre and I've been single pretty much for 8 years. I wouldn't have thought it makes a huge difference. I'd certainly never consider hoping I find a man as a reason to relocate.

@Itsgettinghotinhre yes I have started online dating and there’s lots of people about. I just wonder if actually being in a village is prohibiting me building a relationship… most people I match with are around 40 miles away…

@liveforsummer yeah I was in a city in my twenties and never met anyone from the same city. My ex was actually from Manchester when I lived in Birmingham. We just drove to see each other.

I agree relocating in search of a man is a bit nuts especially when there’s dating apps

In principle living in a village is not an issue itself if it’s a big enough village but I think having busy social life makes a real difference but obviously you have 3 y.o so can’t be out and about when you fancy it.

I’m single, have just moved rural but lived in a city centre for 5 years - still didn’t meet anyone. I was at Uni in my 30s, hardly any mature students and as a totally lone parent, no chance for socialising in the evenings.

I am only familiar with how Hinge works... but you can narrow it down and select your preferences for location. The person I've met doesn't live in the same city as me its 1 hour and 30 minutes away... so don't let that stop you.

I'm willing to bet that it's not just meeting any old man and you have specific criteria like height, ethnicity and looks which further narrow down the pool so it would make sense in a more densely populated area you have better odds but don't move home for this.
I think if you're meant to meet someone you would no matter where you lived.