When did you just accept your body isnt what it used to be and be confident.

[Chocolatiestchocolate]

Basically that.
I gained weight since having our last dc. 2 years ago.
I dont have the willpower to diet.
I try. I obsess. I starve myself because im so obsessed with the scales. I then get so miserable i eat crap. Go from i need to lose weight, to f-it i am who i am.
And so forth
Im a 14 to 16. 5ft 4. 13st! Lots of leg muscle tone.
A very mum tum which if i lost weight, when i have before the ' apron' part shows much more.

Ive just added loads to an online basket of clothes as I've been putting it off because im not happy with my size. But i have such limited clothes.
It's in the basket and i cant bring myself to press pay!
Because im thinking, oh i can lose weight then treat myself.
But the reality is i wont. It will get to winter and ill be living in the same few clothes. Because this is what i do.
I just want to feel confident in the size i am.
Dh is constantly telling me just to order stuff. That i dont look how i feel. That I've had 3 dcs. That he'd love me a size 6 or 26. He gets so frustrated when i put myself down because i cant see what he sees.

I just want to be confident in my image. Maybe a new style?
I live in leggings and baggy tops or plain white t shirts.

euh.... hello.... OP is not 50 or menopausal !
You had a baby 2 years ago @Chocolatiestchocolate , be gentle to yourself. You like your body, buy the clothes that fit and make you feel wow.
If you struggle with that body, take the actions and steps to change that. You go back to square one every time you diet, because you probably go back to eating the wrong food, so these need to go forever.
Yes dieting means struggling a bit but you don't have to be hungry if you lead on the right food. Enormous amount of veggies, shrimps, fish, chicken, once a day whole grain, ..
You have three children, that changes a body, but think about liking yourself and feeling right in your body. Also consider that the food you have in the house will shape the food habits of your children for life.
Identify the triggers. What caused the weight gain? Snacking? Take aways? Eating in front of TV? Chocolate as your name might suggest?

Sorry ive been out all day so only just read replies.
Thank you so much, lots of what you say makes sense.
I fear to obsess over food as i previously many years ago would take a laxative every time i ate. I lost soo much. No one knew they just thought i was just stopping the junk but it was far from that. Everyone said my face was gaunt and looking ill!
I have been consciously trying not to snack on junk and sugary snacks. And before summer holidays id walk miles with youngest in pushchair but not in the holidays as the other ones wont walk as far.

I am going to order a few of the bits next week so im not in the same frumpy washed out clothes and go from there.

I agree with this!
Stop thinking of your body as before and now. Before you was a different person with a different lifestyle and future you will also be different.
Just try and really think about the things in your life that make you happy. Time will come where you feel more motivated and/or you lifestyle balances change.
But right now you want to focus on different things and just remember hat that is perfectly fine ♥️