If you're quiet and introverted, and happy in your relationship what is your partner like?

[Jitnot]

I am super quiet and very introverted and my DH is the same, probably more so. We've been together for a long time - my only ever relationship.

We're going through a bit of a dip in the marriage and I've kind of gone off him and find myself being attracted to men who are completely opposite to me and him.
Basically, confident, chatty and charismatic.

I'm wondering if being in a relationship to someone too similar to me has not been a good thing and perhaps the saying "opposites attract" is correct.

Would be interesting to hear what it's like in other relationships.

Bump!

My partner is super confident which is the opposite of me and over time it's helped me be more open etc.
I think being with someone like myself wouldn't help me.

My dh is like you and I’m the complete opposite. I think we bring out the best in each other. I don’t knownofnotnwould work as well id we were both the same type of person.

HSKAT yes that's what I'm thinking, I think being so alike hasn't been good for either of us, we've not been able to grow / learn from each other. But I wonder too if someone is the opposite, would it cause problems.

Would be interesting if there's any couples who are similar

We're both introverts but I'm a bit more outgoing than him. He struggles in social situations, where I don't.

I’m a quiet introvert, and my husband is even more so.

We’re very happy and very much enjoy a lovely quiet life together.

I’ve been with extroverts before and found it exhausting.

DH is very extrovert and I'm fairly introverted (although neither of us are that extreme). Sometimes I go through an antisocial phase where j just get exhausted with seeing people and making small talk. He pulls me out of it and "makes" me socialise, which is good because I think I might have lost a few friends otherwise. He doesn't really get the need to be alone for long periods of time. He struggled during lockdown and was desperate to see his friends or really just anyone by the end of it!

We are both quiet introverts, him more so than me! It works really well imo as fr really we want to do the same sort of things and neither of us need to compromise. I used to date an extrovert and found it draining

I'm fairly quiet and introverted but do enjoy chatting to my DH. He is more introverted than me. I had a relationship with a very chatty extroverted guy, very into me, we could talk for hours. That was the only good part of our relationship though. We fought a lot, mainly because he couldn't understand my 'crazy alone time'. He wanted to be my shadow. We couldn't watch a film together because he'd want me to pay attention to him. It was a nightmare that lasted 6 months.

I'm sure it would have been different with a healthy extrovert. But this guy just couldn't respect or understand my need for downtime on my own.

Me and DH have been together 15 years. We have some ups and downs but I much prefer being with an introvert. We may not chat quite as much as I'd like but that's what my mum and friends are there for.

My DP is very similar to me. We're both like you, OP. He does have some differences but they're mainly to do with confidence at work.

My ex husband was very different to me (social and had some different values) and it didn't last. I've also had a relationship with an extrovert and it was so unbelievably exhausting. A weekend in his company was just too much.