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What is your longest relationship?

50 replies

savethebeesandthecees · 13/08/2022 08:11

How many years?
Are you still in it? If yes, are you happy? If no, why did it end?

I'm 25 years married. Still in it. Overall happy but do wonder about what might've been or if I'm scared to be alone.

Prior to marrying my longest relationship was six months!

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OnlyYellowRoses · 13/08/2022 09:34

6 and a half years with my children's father. Ended now

Hoolahulahoop · 13/08/2022 09:39

13 years. Married 11. Yes happy and he's decent. Sometimes it gets dull but such is life. He doesn't really go out or need a social life (well he does but it's cycling and visiting parents etc)
But he's kind and we liked each other for years / were friends for years.

Fridaysgirl17 · 13/08/2022 09:43

6 years with my kids father,I thought we were stable,happy,not perfect but what is,I was wrong he had been cheating on me from shortly after our second son's birth & I found out (after he left) he'd got someone pregnant, shortly after I'd found out I was expecting our second son,so I'm better off now but don't think I'll ever be able to trust anyone again 🤷🏻‍♀️

ITriedToStopSwearingButICunt · 13/08/2022 09:47

33 years and still going!
Long term relationships go through phases. Sometimes you think ‘this is a little dull’ and wonder what someone else might have been like, but then things come together and you enjoy something new together, start having more sex, or something.

vroom321 · 13/08/2022 09:48

16 years married 8. It helps he's in the forces and we live 5 hours away to camp so I don't see him often 😂😂

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 13/08/2022 09:49

20 years. Married nearly 1 of those. Before that was 2 and a half years but I was 21 when I met DH and now 41 so not bad going

Imissmoominmama · 13/08/2022 09:51

I had two 4 year relationships before I met DH, and a few over one or two years.

We’ve been together for 25 years; married for 24. Couldn’t be happier!

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 13/08/2022 09:57

Oh yes sorry. We are happy yes! Well we only got married last September so I guess that is self explanatory

Igo · 13/08/2022 10:23

15 years - married for 10 of those! Happy enough, things could be better but we are seeing the light after a dark patch, long long story

before DH it ranged from 4 months to around a year

EverythingHeadinSouth · 13/08/2022 10:32

26 years. Still madly deeply in love with her. You need to work at a relationship but if you both choose wisely it should never feel like hard work.

"...but do wonder about what might've been"

I honestly don't. We can't change the past so why waste emotional energy dwelling on it? I don't compare us to others, I compare our today to our yesterday and plan for our tomorrow. As long as we are moving in a generally upward trajectory that's good enough for me.

MamaNewtNewt · 13/08/2022 10:56

20 years and counting. Yes we are still happy.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 13/08/2022 11:03

11 months 😂

I've been happily single for most of my adult life.

cookiecreammmpie · 13/08/2022 11:07

6 years, married for 2 and happy.

britneyisfree · 13/08/2022 11:07

15 years. Still going. Before that, 2 years.

vdbfamily · 13/08/2022 11:08

my only and current relationship has been 20 years so far to my husband and I have not ever for even a second wished I had not married him. Not saying it has all been a bed of roses but I was not expecting it to be. He is my best friend and still makes me laugh every day❤️

myalternatename · 13/08/2022 12:04

24 years, still in it, very happy.

Mum and Dad, 61 years married, both very happy.

dudsville · 13/08/2022 12:07

Hm, 16 years, still in and hoping for a long future ahead. Previous spanned a longer period of time but had several stops and starts.

ChickPizz · 13/08/2022 12:09

21 years with my (still!) DH.

Prior to that I was in a relationship for 5 years. We lived together and had talked about marriage, but I felt too young to settle down.

Had a couple of 12-18 months relationships before that, and my ‘childhood sweetheart’ who I was with from 16-18 years.

Fair few one nighters and casual shenanigans in the single bits in between relationships 😆

Mothership4two · 12/03/2023 05:39

37 years. Had our ups and downs (nothing major) but both content - I think! Was quite young so no time for long term relationships but had had a couple of fairly chaste ones lasting around 3-4 months

blebbleb · 12/03/2023 08:58

12 years. Married for 6 and happy. Was in a previous relationship for 5 years. That wasn't a happy one. A few casual relationships before that in my teens. I'm 38.

PhoenixAuntie · 12/03/2023 10:11

Close to 28 years and prior to that 11 years, from age 17.

x2boys · 12/03/2023 10:27

18 years with my dh,I was 31_when we met but I was single for most of my 20,s bar a six month relationship at 27and then an on off relatiinship.for a year or so ,also.had an 18 month relationship when I was 17-19,and some very casual flings in my early 20,s

LifeunderMarrs · 12/03/2023 11:31

Been with DH 28 years, married for 21 years. Before that had a two year, five year and two year relationship.

Never boring is how I would describe our relationship. DH is the opposite of all my previous boyfriends - very hot headed and bloody unreasonable sometimes, but at the end of the day he does tick all the big boxes and I have no regrets.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 12/03/2023 11:56

21 years - married for 17 of those.

Still happy and content but of course alongside many laughs and happiness and good feelings, there times of intense irritation and rage and disappointment with each other!

But no thought of separating. TBH I think we have gone beyond the idea of consciously daily choosing to be together - now we just ARE together - can't be undone.

A bit like you can never have another mother, that relationship just IS. I feel like that about DH really.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 12/03/2023 11:58

Previous relationships were 18 months, 2.5 years and various flings and so on.

DH the only one I have ever lived with.

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