Help with this wedding?

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DH and I have been invited to a wedding of his old friend. We've known the groom several years, but haven't seen each other for 2+ yrs since covid and never met the bride. I'm assuming the ceremony is a registry office but its not been mentioned.

We are invited to a pub and the info says its 'casual dress code- fancy if you like' and we can buy food from the food outlets there. They are providing prosecco!

A) what would you wear?
B) what would you give as a gift?

Anyone???

A) what i liked
B) what i liked

no no don't thank me

Oh crikey, that's quite hard! I wouldn't go over the top, but I.might wear a dress (not evening). Especially in this heat but not sure when it is?

For a present I'd probably give a bottle of prescco and maybe a voucher, pretty generic eg john lewis?

If it's your DH's old friend and you don't know the bride, the present is his responsibility.

Clothes-wise, wear a light frock. Summer dresses look nice and it's all you'll be able to tolerate in this heat anyway.

A) A cool, summer dress and sandals
B) Cash in a card

Yes a summer dress, no headgear. Something I already own.

id give cash or a voucher. Less than I would give for a close friend

What would you give as cash/voucher/gift? We are buying our own meal, not going to any ceremony and given a drink? Lovely to be invited, but I have no clue what to give as a gift? Thoughts?

I'd only stick £20-£30 in a card, if you're paying for everything bar one drink.

Or a nice bottle of fizz.

I wouldn’t wear jeans, maybe dress or trousers and blouse. DH would probably wear jeans or chinos and nice shirt.
I wouldn’t give them cash but rather a card and a present, but not a serious one more like a souvenir or memento.

Thanks everyone. Its 1st week of Oct.

Give what you feel you want to. I tend to base

Fucksake, sausage fingers.

I tend to give what

3rd time lucky. I give what I can afford and maybe based on how close we are. Not sure I've ever worked out what the couple are spending

Bottle of champagne as a gift.
Nice summer dress/ chinos and a summer shirt.

Just noticed it’s October 1st, in that case an Autumn dress such as a midi dress.

It's very crass to base the value of your gift on what you think they've spent.

It's not buying a meal at a restaurant. It's a friend hosting you to celebrate their marriage. The gift is a balance of what you can afford and your relationship with that friend.

My guide is £75 for close circle, £50 general and £25 less close.

I would wear a dress or jumpsuit. I would give a bottle of champers.

Personally I'd politely decline and wouldn't bother going: I'm assuming they must live a distance from you if you haven't seen each other in over 2 years? I wouldn't travel a distance to a evening do, unless I really really liked the couple. In which case, I'd wear a nice midi or maxi dress, and either stick £20 in a card or buy a bottle of champagne.

@thecatsthecats - I wouldn't really say we are being hosted! We are having to BUY out own food and drink! They are providing a single, glass of prosecco for us to toast THEIR wedding. They aren't having day/evening guests. The actual ceremony is at a registry office another day and that is just family.

@SaggyBlinders - the groom is an old friend of DH's, 15+yrs. A combination of him moving and ourselves- but in opposite directions, plus covid, has meant we haven't seen the groom in 2 yrs, and never met the bride.