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I went to the pub on my own for the first time today

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PerfectRun · 12/08/2022 18:52

And OMG men are as bad an MN say they are.

Or one man anyway.

I'd had a nice day out, walked a long way and needed the loo and a drink. A pint, I thought, would be lovely.

Found a busy pub with a large outdoor shaded area, went in, used the loo and got myself a pint. Settled down on a bench outside with my book.

Most people ignored me, as I'd expect. I was aware of a man glancing across at me, but ignored him with my book. Then he got up and sat next to me (long bench seating, not tables). His opening line was something about the way I'd crossed my legs. Apparently the direction meant I didn't like him. Tbh, I initially thought he was just rambling to himself and ignored him, but he became more insistent and louder. "Why are you interested in all other men, but not me. When I die I'll invite only women to my funeral, they'll have a party."

I said quite firmly. "I'm not interested in any men, but you're annoying me." And went back to the book. If I thought he listen I'd have told him that if he'd made conversation about the weather, it could have been quite pleasant. He wasn't bad looking and younger than me!

Anyway, it must have been obvious to other patrons and staff he was bothering me, but no one came to my rescue and eventually he left.

Should I have done things differently? I felt I handled him OK, but I was surprised none of the middle aged people (like me) around me intervened at all.

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RunningFromInsanity · 12/08/2022 19:00

I don’t think one short conversation warranted being ‘rescued’?

MomwasCasual · 12/08/2022 19:02

You sound like you handled it fine, I think I'd be annoyed if someone felt the need to 'intervene' on my behalf

LynneBenfield · 12/08/2022 19:05

He sounds like a drunk arsehole but you handled it fine and it sounds like he moved on pretty quickly and you didn’t need ‘rescuing’. Being accosted by knobs is annoying though.

PerfectRun · 12/08/2022 19:06

RunningFromInsanity · 12/08/2022 19:00

I don’t think one short conversation warranted being ‘rescued’?

It wasn't that short. He went on and on about the crossed legs thing and got quite agressive about women not liking him.

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PerfectRun · 12/08/2022 19:07

He didn't seem that drunk. He'd obviously had a drink, but he was in work clothes and it was only 4pm.

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CreateLow · 12/08/2022 19:28

Did you feel you could tell a staff member you felt uncomfortable?

I don't think people like to intervene, for fear of being told to fuck off!

PerfectRun · 12/08/2022 20:02

CreateLow · 12/08/2022 19:28

Did you feel you could tell a staff member you felt uncomfortable?

I don't think people like to intervene, for fear of being told to fuck off!

My plan was to ask the group of young men sitting opposite, who reminded me of my sons, if I could sit with them for a bit.

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birdfeeders · 12/08/2022 20:44

That sounds gross and totally out of order.

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