DM troubles

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Feeling really hurt. Should know better. It was my birthday last week. DM rang and I saw her later that day. No card or anything. Two days later we visited and she gave dh a gift (as he does so much for her) he put batteries in a watch etc.

Few days pass she rings asking what size ds is as she's looking up things for his birthday in October! It's mind games with her

Last year I got cheap bubble bath and she handed it to me and laughed that it will make me itch.

The thing is I don't even want a gift but why do that with dh. Knowing full well I didn't get a card. Backstory is we haven't been close. She's controlling and manipulative at best. So I don't keep up daily contact or twice weekly visits. When I do visit she goes on at how everyone else's daughter is so good. I'm always the bad guy 😭

She's goes on about being so lonely but all my life she's put me down. I know I am not good like other daughters as I don't enjoy her company (rude about everyone and uses people)

You are a better dd than most by even seeing her at all.
No law says you have to op.
Been nc with mine for 20 years.
Be less available..much less

I have gone nc in the past. It usually results in my father calling over asking if I have gone in the head. Saying they would lick the ground for me. They gave up everything for me. My mother never even bought sanitary towels for me. She wasn't a nurturing type at all.

But when visitors arrive at their house they are treated so well. You would think she has a heart of gold to meet her.

Why are you just blaming your mother if your father didn't get you a card either?
They sound awful.

That's a very fair point but I don't think he's been to a shop in years. Very traditional relationship. He tells people they've only one daughter but I don't do anything like a daughter would (i.e clean for them even though brother's are nearer)