Which man would you date?

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Man 1
Quiet, a bit geeky, shy but weirdly he's very confident at work but I think that's because he loves his work and is very good at it. He's seems sweet and nice. A bit boring maybe - I'm not sure. He's okay looking, slim, skinny build.

Man 2
Very confident and sociable, lots of friends. Very charismatic - I see people instantly just liking him when they first meet him. Very open and honest, has a good heart. He's tall and has a rugged sexy look about him. He loves the gym so is very buff. Women seem to flirt with him alot even though sometimes he doesn't realise. He's funny and great company.

Both have successful careers and good at what they do.

I normally would go for 1. Man 2 isn't really my type and wouldn't even consider approaching but circumstances led to us having to spend a lot of time together and to my surprise we hit it off.

Man 1, we work for the same company but not the same department. He has hinted he'd like to go on a date a few times. Man 2 has already asked me out on a date.

Who would you pick? They're both great in different ways. My heart says 2 but my head says 1! If I pick 2 and it doesn't work out, I'm afraid that 1 will have moved on and I'd have missed my chance.

Why cannot you date both until you find if there's a spark with either of them?

Can’t you go on both dates? There’s no expectation to be exclusive with someone that you’ve not even been out with yet!

go on a date with both

Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Outgoing or quiet? You need to choose someone you're compatible with.

Sounds to me like you have an unexpected spark with 2. But 1 is more your "usual" type so in your comfort zone.

However, you don't seem to fancy 1 (describing him as a bit boring and okay looking). Whereas 2 is "sexy" and "rugged". So definitely 2.

Do you not feel "attractive enough" for 2? If so, put that self doubt away. There's a famous quote: love is both of you secretly thinking they have the better half of the deal. I know that's about love, but I think it works for attraction too. When you first really fancy someone, you can't quite believe that they could fancy you

Both

You’d date both surely? Why do you need to choose?

I have no idea why people put all of their eggs in one basket. So many women are rendering themselves exclusive to one bloke from date 1. There is nothing wrong with multiple dating.

although- just to remind you about man 1: boring and okay-looking and ‘geeky’ men don’t always treat you better than laddy types. so if you are settling with him because you think he’ll be more grateful for your company, you may end up a bit disappointed

Oh god, call me old fashioned but I've always dated one person at a time! Probably why I'm still single 😂

Yes, you've hit the nail on the head. I feel that 2 is out of my league. I wouldn't normally even consider it as there would be no point, he'd never be interested. Tbh Im not his usual type either. His previous gf was a tall, slim blonde, very beautiful. I think he has dated models in the past too. I'm a short frump.

No1sounds lovely no2 sounds a handful lol
But .. sorry to be that person but do you really want to date from the work pool .. would it be awkward if it didn't work?

I would go on a first date with both, and decide from there.
I'd go out again with the one who made me laugh.

Date them both, it's only a meeting between two people, you're not picking your life partner at this stage.

You might decide halfway through date 1 that one of them definitely isn't for you or one of them might think the same of you.

Two. He sounds like it’d be a fun date.
Go on a date with both?

Old fashioned would be dating multiple people. This ‘focusing on one person’ who you don’t really know whether they are worth focussing on or not is a modern invention.

dating doesn’t mean ‘shagging’. You can go on multiple dates with different men then you decide whoever you want to prioritise after you have gotten to know them.

Having dated a very attractive man before, I can tell you with confidence- it wasn’t great. Women hit on him and touched him in front of me, other women started bitching about me because they wanted him etc. It was just not enjoyable. However, go for a date with him and see what happens. Number one hasn’t even asked you out yet!

How did he deal with the women. That would be important. Did he shrug them off or entertain and enjoy the attention?

After a bit of thought Im going to leave it with 1 as I don't want things to be awkward at work. I have arranged a date this week with 2!