Theory about mum/daughter relationships/era you're born in

[Celia24]

I'm a millennial and my mum was born after the 60s. She was a hippy in her youth and very much had a relaxed outlook towards a lot of things like sex and other topics.

Compare that with her own mother who was very much a 50s housewives. I think their very different attitudes meant they weren't very close - and I think I can at least in part put our close relationship down to both being born in a freer time.

But my gran was very close to her own mother - and to my mind they were both born in a more conservative era.

Now maybe im off base but I wondered what others thought of this and their experiences?

It's interesting, I was brought up by my grandparents and whilst I had a great childhood, my grandma and I weren't and aren't overly close, I never felt able to speak to her about periods, boyfriends etc. I'm trying very hard to have a more open, "talk to me about everything" relationship with my own daughter.

@SpinningWheelOfFortune thinking about what you're saying my gran couldn't talk about her body properly at all. Almost like it was taboo.

Now I DO think some of her attitudes bled over to her daughter and therefore me but for the most part I think it's something to do with being born post 60s in a freer age.

I wonder if Victorian's and flapper daughters experienced similar? It just crossed my mind and I'm intrigued now!

I'm a millennial and my mum was born after the 60s. She was a hippy in her youth

Hard to be a hippy if she was born “after the 60s”, so in 70s? Hippies were over and done with by 1975. Unless she was hippy baby raised on a commune.

Sorry she was born in the early 60s...a teen in late 70s. She definitely lived like a hippy for a while at a commune. I think there are hippies in today's world that would disagree with you!

Thanks, I get it now. Perhaps I am biased as my DM was one of the original hippies back in the 60s. Very much free love and backpacking around Europe and Asia. But we were like chalk and cheese because I was a teen/20s during the AIDS crisis where 1 in 4 had HIV and at the time it was a death sentence to catch HIV. Dead by 30 was what was said. Watched friends catch it and die, some quick some slow. A few even passed it on to their babies and none of those poor kids lived past age 7. So casual sex literally had worse odds than playing Russian Roulette with a standard six barrel revolver! So I was practically a nun as a young woman which my mum did not “get” at all.