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Looking for experiences and hopefully positive stories of DC starting nursery at around 21 months

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Blueanddelta · 08/08/2022 21:31

My 21 month old is due to start nursery in September for two days a week, around 8am-3.45pm, while I'm at work. We did try nursery briefly when she was around 12 months old, and gave it several sessions of around 2-3 hours a couple of days a week (perhaps not enough) but she was very upset and we decided to reconsider at the time as we had other options.

Since then she has really grown in confidence and is more used to being looked after by people other than me, albeit not for quite as long. I would say she is still quite sensitive, but not so much around other children (she has an older sibling). Around the time she first tried nursery she would be upset if I even went upstairs and she was downstairs with DH, whereas now he or grandparents can look after her and she'll usually happily wave bye if I go out of the door or can be easily distracted if she does seem unsure.

I love the nursery and feel she'll be very happy there in the long term and that on balance it will offer benefits to her, but feel absolutely conflicted about the settling process. I know she will cry at drop off but what I'm worried about is her being distressed throughout the session. It doesn't help that financially we are worse off for me working those particular days in short term (and I will be working extra weekend shifts elsewhere to cover the childcare cost of the week days too) and so the benefits aren't obvious but long term it is an investment in retraining and thus should hopefully benefit her in terms of future security and opportunities.

I have considered childminders but there aren't any available that have been personally recommended to me (whereas I know many people whose children have been very happy for years at this nursery and it is a reasonably small setting which otherwise I think meets her needs better than others I've looked at).

I would love to hear how other children have got on starting around this age, as it's weighing on my mind a lot.

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lifesnotaspectatorsport · 08/08/2022 21:35

My twins started nursery at 20 months - it was their first ever experience of formal childcare and it was in another language (we live abroad). My boy twin is very sensitive and tends to be clingy but he settled in after a week or so, in fact began to positively run in without a backward look! Obviously he had his sister there which probably helped, but I think at 20-21 months they understand so much more readily that you are coming back, and take more interest in the activities. The nursery we chose was also small and very child-centred, we were completely happy with our choice.

They did go 5 mornings a week though, and you may find it takes a little longer with the stop-start of 2 days a week.

Blueanddelta · 08/08/2022 21:37

Thank you, I'm glad your twins settled so well, that's encouraging.

I had thought that about the days and was hoping I might be able to pay for some extra consecutive sessions if they have space to get her started - even if she just does some extra mornings before her first longer day.

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Blueanddelta · 09/08/2022 07:06

I'll hopefully be sorting out dates today so hoping for one or two more experiences to reassure me!

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