Motivational kick up the arse please!!!

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Hi all, been a sahm for yeeeaaaarrrs!!! Been studying to qualify in a profession so I can get back to work. Had to get an extension due to some ill health but am almost there now…..but I have a massive essay that needs to be in by next week. Last week I asked dh to help me out tomorrow and he agreed. He’s just told me that he’d forgotten about a massage he booked so I now have to take the kids to the activity day they’ve been invited to 40miles away…all day. I’m so cross, feel like he’s deliberately sabotaging me (he prob isn’t) and am cross because yet again my needs come last. I very rarely ask for help and now I remember why - because it’s pointless. ANYWAY, now instead of forging on because I have even less time I’m wallowing here feeling so devalued and miserable. This is my key to being self sufficient and having more self worth - I ve got to get on with it!! Please may I have some encouraging words?….I cannot wait to be earning my own money!!!

Why haven't you started the essay sooner? Or have you started it and it needs finishing?

Oh I’ve started!!

Don't think of all that you have to do. Break it down. Give yourself small challenges.

I need about 20 hours to finish it. I’d pull an all nighter tonight but I’ve got to drive tomorrow so prob not wise…

Break it down into small steps. Tick each step off as you do. Start ASAP- don’t waste time at the start.
When I did my essays, I did not write the paragraphs in chronological order. I sequenced the paragraphs at the end, but just wrote them according to how much I knew/liked the topic.
i would also ask your husband why he thinks it is acceptable to promise/forget/ trump your need. A massage?… no way, I’d be waving him and kids off tomorrow. He agreed and he forgot- he needs to sort his cock-up out.
I miss the days of writing under pressure and the great feeling of finishing it!

Thank you @Ilovehatecleaning & @vaingina - yep one bit at a time - and reminding myself how good it will feel to have it done. And yes, an f-ing massage🤷🏼‍♀️ - but it’s just the same old….I’m just here to facilitate his needs. This is why I need to get to work - because anytime I would like to come above his needs I have ‘but I earn all the money’ thrown in my face (yes dear, because you’ve been able to work away 85% of the week (pre covid) because I stayed home and sorted everything and everyone else!! I laugh now - when he first was home in lockdown he expected fully catered lunches as well as suppers….I’ve shown him how to make a sandwich now😂