Mental health support

[Feelingdreadful22]

I hope my name change has worked as i feel stupid.
I take citalopram since a bereavement 10 years ago and suffer anxiety periodically still.

I’ve had some bad news this weekend that I won’t be able to stay in the rented property we have lived in for 35 years when my parent passes away.

I feel like I’m dying, waves of dread, tingling legs and arms, feel short of breath hot and cold. I’ve cried since yesterday mainly non stop. Can’t eat not sleeping.

any advice/hand hold on how I can feel better?
ive referred self to a mental health hub but is a wait.

I have a responsible job and due in on Tuesday.

Hi, I'm sorry you feel so distressed. I'm no expert but I'd try 1. Giving yourself time to be sad/ shocked. You don't have to get over this immediately. It's okay to be upset. 2. Giving yourself specific worry time. Allow yourself to be anxious and ruminate but try to limit this time eg 30mins twice a day. When your thoughts go back to this place, tell yourself you will deal with it later. 3. Journalling?? Write down stream of consciousness
Sorry you feel so rubbish x

Thankyou @ThirstyMeeples it’s just so all consuming at the minute I feel awful.

trying to watch tv to distract but not working.

Who has said you can't stay there and what's their reasoning?

Social housing.
One parent died, other became sole tenant (although signed original lease together)so classed as a succession apparently and you can only have one succession.

I don’t know if it’s worth seeking legal advice as if that’s the rule not much I can do?

You need to speak with local housing team as technically you're now going to be homeless so they'll have to help you. Is it 'too big' technically for you?

@MichelleScarn yes technically too big.
Ive live here for 35 years but not on tenancy so would they even give me a property or just throw me out?

I just wish the panic and anxiety symptoms would ease off, I feel so bad 😞

Bump for the morning crowd.

What’s your surviving parents healthy like, as in, are you expecting to lose them sometime soon?

You need to get in touch with whoever provides your social housing and find out exactly what the procedure is when a tenant passes. How long would you have to find another property? If you have the right information, you can get your head around it instead of panicking about the unknown.

If you’re finding that you can’t cope with your anxiety, you need to go back to the GP for a medication review.

She’s in ok health but nearly 70.

we’ve asked them to call us to see if we have any options.

I hate feeling like this, I feel paralysed like I can’t put a thought together.

So being unable to stay in your home is a problem that could be years away, if not decades. I under That the uncertainty is upsetting, but the way you are feeling about this is because of your mental health, not because it’s an insurmountable problem.

Please try and talk to your GP, or at least get some advice from your surgery about how you can access some help more quickly. You deserve the help you need.

@ClocksGoingBackwards Thankyou.
yes hopefully be decades from now and I could get a “granny flat” or something.

I think the decision has brought up lots of stuff I’ve buried about disappointment with my life and not recovering from my DF dying.
I cope so poorly with change ☹️

i have an appt with a service for an assessment to see if they can offer me some therapy but not until next week.

Thankyou all for taking the time to reply, I hate being a needy whiny poster.