So so upset. So frustrated. Nobody to talk to in rl

[IHaveDefinitelyHadEnough]

I have had without a doubt the worst weekend of my life.

my own family are spiteful and nasty that’s nothing new the struggle with them is long-standing I was NC but had to recently revert to Low contact whilst something got sorted out. In that short time they’ve used that opportunity to get at me.

on Friday I had a funeral to go to and an grieving a loss. You would think my dc and dh might actually afford me some understanding but no.

Teen ds and dd have been worse than ever. Rudeness, demands, etc etc I got to the point where I’m absolute desperation I cried and begged dh to sort out the issue to talk to them and explain why I just don’t need this right now. He refused and blamed me. Because I’m ‘in a mood’. Yes Iam. I exhausted and grieving.

Ive now ended up telling kids to move out and for dh to go as well. I do everything and nobody could let me have just one weekend without bitching and demands from the teens and dh who never ever enforces anything or backs me up so I’m done. I’m done with everything. I put myself last and I’ve had enough of being a doormat.

Im going to the the gp tomorrow morning and I’m going to ask for anti depressants and counselling. I’m going to get a divorce and I actually want to live alone I cannot stand being treated like this for a second longer .

There is no point whatsoever to my post other than I have nobody to talk to

Have they gone ?

I don’t know I told dh to take them to his parents and I went out so I suppose wheh I go back later I’ll see

How old are your teens?

You poor thing
I know it might feel like you're alone but you're not, parenting is so so difficult.
You're doing the right thing by going to the GP.
Hang in there, op.

It wasn’t even anything awful as such just teenagers being as usual rude and demanding but I taught them manners and consideration and they seem to have forgotten that and they could see I was stressed yet just carry on to the point I am begging can dh just talk to them. I shouldn’t have to beg . I’m not doing it anymore. I have such a strong urge to just have time alone I can’t be near people who do not respect me

17 and 19 so old enough to know better

i just needed a calm weekend and it’s like they saw weakness and stepped it up and dh could see me getting more stressed and it escalating and just does nothing then blames me so as far as I’m concerned he’s no better enabling their shitty behaviour

Good for you OP, I hope your reaction put a rocket up their arses......make sure you now put yourself first 💐

Likely that your dcs have learnt to behave like this from their father :(

im sorry @IHaveDefinitelyHadEnough. I can see where you are coming from because I’ve been close that a few times.

Can you afford to have counselling privately? The NHS times are awfully long and CBT wasn’t the answer for me. But that’s counselling that’s really helped me get back on an even keel.

The lack of support from your family is awful. In the meantime while you are gathering your thoughts, would you consider asking GP for a hormone level test to see if you are menopausal? If so, HRT would help far more than any anti depressant would.

You are quite right to demand respect from your family, and I am sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss op, would some grievance counselling help you right now? Cruse might be able to offer you some support either by phone or a local group www.cruse.org.uk/ I’m sorry that your family are not helping you, continue to put yourself first, this might be the kick up the arse they all need, it’s very sad that loved ones take the piss in bad times. Take care.

Well they can sit and reflect on their behaviour now and I hope it’s a lesson learnt well for your teens. I know the ganged up feeling is the worst.

It sounds like the camels back has well and truly broken op, and you have finally started standing up for yourself.

I wouldn’t be too quick to start the anti depressants - you don’t sound depressed, you sound like your self preservation instincts are kicking in. By going to the GP for medication you are making it sound like this is all your fault, and your poor mental health is to blame, and it isn’t. It is their poor treatment of you.

You can self refer on line for counselling or pay to see someone quicker and find someone faster through the BACP website, to help and support you.

I would go back to no contact if I were you for now unless your family can be supportive; nothing worse than the final boot coming from them.

You deserve better from everyone op 💐💐

Listen you may need antidepressants, I have no idea. Or you may be safe because your life is rubbish. Not the same at all.

Hope you're feeling better and treating yourself to a nice meal and walk.