Why do some people have to make a fuss about a perfectly ordinary thing to do?

[lilacflowersinthegarden]

I don’t know if anybody else has ever had this, but it seems to happen to me a lot, and I am not sure why.

PIL came to visit earlier, and they are lovely people and I’m certainly not trying to start a MIL bashing thread. But MIL made a really big deal over something very normal (to me.)

We have moved house, and where we are is very isolated so we only really have one set of neighbours. They introduced themselves the first night we moved in. A couple of nights later I was about to cook dinner and realised I couldn’t find our mixing bowls, so asked if I could borrow one.

I mentioned to MIL i had borrowed a bowl from them and she went on and on about it as if I’d done something hugely daring and shocking. Things like ‘wel no one could accuse YOU of being shy!’ and ‘they’ll be hiding now as they’ll think you’re asking for stuff’ and saying to FIL ‘she’s been on the beg already!’

It made me feel really odd and self conscious. Now in my eyes MIL is the one being a bit strange as it is perfectly normal to ask for something like that when you’ve just moved. But I have to admit things like that seem to happen to me a lot - I’ll do something that is normal and everyday (to me) and other people will seem to think it’s very daring or hilarious, or something.

Does anyone else ever have this?

She must be on MN where everyone agonises over everything and can't figure out mundane tasks.

There’s literally nothing to comment on. Is her life exceptionally boring?

She’s a fucking loon.

Her reaction is quite funny. I only know my neighbours to say hi in the street but I'd think nothing of someone asking to borrow a mixing bowl if they needed it. It's not like it's a consumable or you're not going to give it back.

She sounds ridiculous.

But then I think a lot of people do keep themselves to themselves these days. So if you are more open that might surprise people (I speak as a chatty northerner living in the south east...)

Tell her that sometimes you answer the door without knowing who’s behind it or answer the phone without the person on the other end of it checking that you’re ok to take the call and see her brain really scramble

If someone wanted to borrow a mixing bowl or anything I’d lend it . I’d only be annoyed if I didn’t get it back . It must be awful being your mil overthinking things . if they didn’t want to lend it to you they wouldn’t .

I’d rather die than ask to borrow anything from my neighbours. But then I am an antisocial introvert.