How do you stop your dc fighting?

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I have two sons aged 6&7 who fight constantly. It usually starts as play fighting which ends up getting too rough.

If your dc fight how do you stop them?

I try to separate them but as soon as I get on with stuff they are fighting again.

Just have one. Very effective!

Time out and stars on the chart. Yours are closer in age - can you separate them? Eg one doing colouring in the kitchen and the other watering plants 🪴

And more games today eg board games and taking turns wtc

I had to send mine to separate rooms in the end.

Zero tolerance. Aggressive behaviour is not ok.

zero tolerance. Send to rooms. Let them out when ready to behave. If repeated tell them if they're so bored they have to fight they can help with chores instead.

I agree with zero tolerance. So separate in different rooms - on different floors if you have them for 10 minutes every single time.

Although a friend of mine had girls this age difference.

One day she just decided to let them fight. They hurt each other so much they actually very rarely did it again after that!

I've a 6 and 8 year old boys and they also fight constantly.

One minute best friends and playing nicely then all hell breaks loose for no reason.

It's relentless

Give more attention when they’re not fighting

When you do have to intervene, don’t get involved in who is right/wrong/etc . Ask them how they can stop/who’s got an idea how to calm down. Praise that child’s answer. follow up a few minutes later with praise for both of them being calm. Repeat that every time - over time, it’ll help.

Zero tolerance as above. I have girls and they are rarely physical but it's still relentless. They've missed out on so much. Only today we were popping to a shop for a school coat before going up town for a what could have been lovely afternoon. Fighting started over something ridiculous - loud and embarrassing- so we left with no coat and went home. Seems harsh but I've truly had enough.

How interesting! I posted a similar thread as my boys 8 and 10 constantly fight and it does get physical and the perfect parents of mn told me their kids never fight 🙄 glad to see it’s not just mine after all