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I found my old diary

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Orangeblossomfield · 05/08/2022 20:21

I'm almost 40. Today my dad handed me an old diary that I kept from the ages of about 12-16. He found it in the shed and handed it to me. My blood ran a bit cold when I saw it, as I remembered the kind of stuff that I recorded in it! I slipped it into my bag and changed the subject.

I just read it. Lots of it is hilariously innocent, such as listing the items I bought in Boots that day, or the flavour the sandwich I ate for my lunch. I love how I mentioned my horoscopes for that week and how I needed to wish on the star in 'Eva Magazine' for good luck, and that would solve my problems.

Parts of it are disturbing, such when I talk about how low I felt and how I sometimes wished I would die. I said that a few tines, and remember the feeling. One entry said 'I'm almost suicidal' and I did actually attempt an overdose when I was 15. I wasn't very popular in school and was incredibly, desperately lonely.

I was also absolutely desparate for male attention. I was going through some kind of sexual awakening but had very poor boundaries and very low self esteem. I charted these early encounters in my diary really crudely with incredibly vulgar language.

I didn't feel nostalgic reading the diary back; I felt ashamed, and I would be ashamed for anyone to read it, even though it was written a long time ago and I'm now a grown up.

I feel sad and slightly yucky after reading it and would like to destroy it. I'm not sure how.

Any ideas?

And while we are at it, please share your experiences of keeping a diary in your teen years. Have you read back on it? What was funny and did anything choke you up as you read it back?

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Longdistance · 05/08/2022 20:25

Chuck it on a fire. Out with the old and all that.

It’s in the past where it should stay.

Magnolia08 · 05/08/2022 20:49

Yes op I've got my diary from a similar age and I've kept it.

I don't particularly like the person I was then, very bitchy and dramatic, always falling out with friends and completely boy crazy. I used to develop inappropriate crushes on much older boys/men but amongst all the drama I like the innocence and the pleasure I found in the simple things, a can of cherry coke and reading smash hits or a new lipstick or nail varnish.

It's all part of adolescence, the good, bad and the ugly. Don't be too hard on yourself Flowers

niki26 · 05/08/2022 21:04

Very similar OP - I'm 40 in November and a few years ago when I found my diaries from a similar era to you I cringed! In fact, I think I was a bit older as I talked quite a lot about the gorgeous delivery guy for White Arrow Blush I was sure he was as in love with me as I was with him.

At a separate time (when I was circa 16) I talked about how my best friend and I had had a talk and decided that we weren't going to be best friends anymore so I could spend all my time with my boyfriend! What a twat I was! He lasted another year. Best friend and I reconciled about 5 years later and have remained best friends ever since. I'm bloody lucky she forgave me for that shit.

I ripped the diaries up and chucked away.

TailSpinner · 05/08/2022 21:32

Oh God, I know, you’d think you can look at these things by the age of 40 and just chuckle retrospectively at your previous life as a pre-teen, like it’s a separate person… but nope. It never stops being major cringeworthy! And the sad bits still hurt. I’ve written and thrown away a few diaries over the years - mainly my late teens and early/mid twenties. I didn’t keep them as a record, it’s more like therapy I guess. And I wouldn’t share my therapy sessions with anyone, neither am I keen to relive them! The sad thing is, the main reason I used to write things down is to get sad and angry thoughts off my chest. I don’t keep any diaries now, it’s a sign I’m happy - I just keep a reading journal because I like the action of writing and I’m a sucker for nice notebooks and stationary, so need something to use them for 😂
Take heart in knowing we all cringe at our past selves to an extent - I think anyone who doesn’t isn’t normal tbh.

Orangeblossomfield · 05/08/2022 21:41

Thanks ladies. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
Yes I talked about a 'silver bullet' nail polish (Rimmel, I think) and wrote how I got my hair layered and it looked really sexy (I was 12!)

I justvreally over shared with the diary and recorded certain things in far too much detail. My first intimate encounters were far too early and really just because I was so lonely. My language was so obscene and the way I referred to my mother is pretty awful. I dont know if my parents ever read the diary but I would be disappointed if it was one if my daughters'. Disappointed and very worried actually.

Oh the cringe is so strong!

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